I’m having a bit of a personality crisis.
I believe that I am an INTJ. That’s the result I got when I first took the test in the Keirsey book years ago, and that’s what I’ve considered myself since then.
But I’ve been having second thoughts about the J recently. My dad thinks he’s also and INTJ, but we’ve been trying to convince him that he’s a P. Comparing him to myself has made me start to realize that I’m at least not as judging as I thought.
•I’ve always loved (needed!) to have things decided. Always. I used to feel really uncomfortable going somewhere just to “hang out,” and it was hard for me to agree to do social things, even with my best friends, if they were impromptu. I need to know where I’m going to be and at what time. I’ve forced myself to become more flexible, but changes in plans still make me uncomfortable.
•I love schedules, which is similar to the above. I like having things planned and in order.
•I like time. I always need to know what time it is and I hate to be late.
•One source says that P’s “enjoy rushing just before deadlines.” Does anyone really? I hate that.
•I put off making decisions. I do like to wait until I think I have the information to make a good decision. I like to get the opinions of others too.
•I get irritated when people try to over-schedule or over-organize something simple. Like when my mother asks “Where are you going? Who will be there? Will you be in the same place the entire time? How will you get there? When will you be done?” “Holy cow, Mamma, the teenager world is a very P world, and no matter how nervous it makes me sometimes, I have no way of knowing for sure where I will be the entire night.”
•I’m pretty disorganized, and a procrastinator.
•Maybe all of that is not natural. Maybe I’ve done such a good job of developing a P that it shows up just as strongly as my natural J.
•Maybe living in a house full of P’s has gotten to me.
•My whole family is full of P’s. (Well, I think my father’s a P, but then again I’m not a very good judge apparently...) Maybe I’m just less P than they are?
•Maybe the need for organization in social situations is because of my I.
•Maybe I’ve been kidding myself
•INTJ fits me so well. I haven’t really looked at INTP, I should, but when I first read Keirsey’s description I was like OH MY GOSH.
•There’s no question about the other letters.
•I like the idea of being a J. Does that count for something?
•My INTJ bf is so J. Compared to him, I seem pretty P.
Help? I know there are people out there who have so much more experience and knowledge than I do. It may also be easier to see from a distance... Thank you so much
P.S. Sorry, the formating got all nasty when i pasted...