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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    hmmm are you saying I'm a shit date???? LOL dig yourself out...

    Thanks Elaur

    Fluff in seriousness, he didn't seem too stressed out, but his life is goign through a critical phase
    No, I'm saying he's interested in you and doesn't really know how to deal with that. Stress isn't always visible, especially not in introverted people.

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    Well we can only presume that he is similar to me. (just to be clear)


    I am really bad at projecting/showing my sense of empathy. Even when my feelings are turned on. In most cases you can't see anything unusual but my Fi will be working.


    Also alot of it depends how we define define "suppoting" here. Since if you are looking for strong emotional support IxTJs are probably the worst choice. However we are not likely to crack under pressure. So it is up to you to decide what you want from a relationship.


    What exactly do you mean by lack of empathy ?

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    Awe fluff, it's just me teasing me to tease you... Not taking offense I assure.

    Antisocial... em, he hasn't been with many women, but it all seems a bit blaze etc... why no empathy, well he says he dones't get the whole suportiveness. I didn't know his type for sure, I'm kind of guessing. He says he is emotional but not supprotive etc. He never once asked me how I was... I was pretty sick last week, had spiked a temperature etc, and he never asked me once after the conversation how I was. Now he is stressed out with life right now, so maybe I'm being harsh, but I have dated someone with NPD before I knew what NPD was, hence my freaking out a bit now... Empathy isn't really something one evolved into- he either has it or not

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    Awe fluff, it's just me teasing me to tease you... Not taking offense I assure.

    Antisocial... em, he hasn't been with many women, but it all seems a bit blaze etc... why no empathy, well he says he dones't get the whole suportiveness. I didn't know his type for sure, I'm kind of guessing. He says he is emotional but not supprotive etc. He never once asked me how I was... I was pretty sick last week, had spiked a temperature etc, and he never asked me once after the conversation how I was. Now he is stressed out with life right now, so maybe I'm being harsh, but I have dated someone with NPD before I knew what NPD was, hence my freaking out a bit now... Empathy isn't really something one evolved into- he either has it or not
    This made me smile.


    Actually this is one of the main reason why I can come as a sociopath to people. Basicly the entire thing comes down to underdeveloped feeling side (especially Fe). I almost never ask people this kinds of questions and even if I do mostly to it because I have figured out that the moment really needs it.



    Seriously, if this scares you don't date him.

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    The scary bit is if he is a sociopath/NPD, they really leave their scars because they don't get or care about the pain they cause.

    if he is in a stressful place but is more supportive when he isn't then its worth hanging on and letting his life settle, however if this is it, which it may be - given tha tmost men are fawnign all ovr themselves when they first start seeing you (can do enough for you)... and I'm like... well if this is as good as it gets it SULKS!

    We talked about what women want, to be nurtured and cherished... which went way over his head.

    practical issues he seems to treat as no brainers.

    What is keeping me there is he is bright, really bright, can probabyl run rings around me (but possibily in an annoying way - like picking up when contractdict myself, as an abstract I'm prone to possitioning things in multiple ways in order to be undrstood). Maybe he is an ISTJ which may realted to needing to possitioning the idea in multiple ways....

    I just don't want to end up with someone who can't give me the emotional support I need.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post

    I just don't want to end up with someone who can't give me the emotional support I need.
    I guess it depends on how much emotional support you want. Because whilest INTJ's and ISTJ's can give emotional support. It's not like they'll ever be abundant in that department and shower you in it, no matter how balanced they are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fluffywolf View Post
    I guess it depends on how much emotional support you want. Because whilest INTJ's and ISTJ's can give emotional support. It's not like they'll ever be abundant in that department and shower you in it, no matter how balanced they are.
    Good thought, actualy I don't need that much support, but I do need someone not to stamp on me and damage me emotionally.... emo devoids do damge because they don't know or care.... that I can live without. only limited about of emo support is OK, but none and it's like why bother.... maybe he is more introverted and less socially able, maybe his life crisis is not helping but it's the possible damage I'd be war off.

    I do apprecaite you guys chiming in it is helpful at unpicking my N.... which seems to have packed up and closed shop under protest but hasn't told my left brain what's thats all about...

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post

    I just don't want to end up with someone who can't give me the emotional support I need.

    If you want emotional support there are much better candidates for you boyfriend than him. Problem solved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    If you want emotional support there are much better candidates for you boyfriend than him. Problem solved.
    Indeed, but as I said in my last post, it's not so much support as lack of emo destruction - ie that he doens't use his lack of empathy in order to do damage... intentional or otherwise... its easy done

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    Indeed, but as I said in my last post, it's not so much support as lack of emo destruction - ie that he doens't use his lack of empathy in order to do damage... intentional or otherwise... its easy done
    What are you actually saying ?

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