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    I have an INTJ father that can say almost anything to critzise someone else, even his own family. And heīs nearly 60 years old. Heīs starting to realize that his untactful comments arenīt welcome anymore.

    So my question is for INTJīs in general. When did you realize that you have to think about what you say? Have you even realized this?

    I know there are other MBTI types that can unintentionally insult people but imo INTJīs are the worst.
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    My father is an INTJ also, and he has always been good about thinking before he speaks. So, I learned from his example. My INTJ brother seems to have learned by his example as well. It's not that we don't make mistakes now and then, but for the most part we all try to take a "you attract more flies with honey than vinegar" approach to life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HomerSoprano View Post
    I have an INTJ father that can say almost anything to critzise someone else, even his family. And heīs nearly 60 years old. Heīs starting to realize that his comments arenīt welcome anymore.

    So my question is for for INTJīs in general. When did you realize that you have to think about what you say? Have you even realized this?

    I know there are other MBTI types that can unintentionally insult people but imo INTJīs are the worst.
    When I was about 18 and realized that the shit that came out of my mouth could make life harder for me as well as draw unwanted attention to myself. I had to work on facial expression as well.
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bri View Post
    My father is an INTJ also, and he has always been good about thinking before he speaks. So, I learned from his example. My INTJ brother seems to have learned by his example as well. It's not that we don't make mistakes now and then, but for the most part we all try to take a "you attract more flies with honey than vinegar" approach to life.
    3 INTJs in one family? Are you sure? Isn't that a sign of the apocalypse...or the cause thereof?

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    I was taught to have proper manners at a young age. I have therefore always found it immature and childish to call people names or insult them. Criticising is of course different and I expect people not to take it personally. Only to improve themselves. I do not criticise with the emotion of anger though. Destructiveness is the production of anger and hatred and getting things done with the emotion of anger means that one's perception of the world is faulty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HomerSoprano View Post
    I have an INTJ father that can say almost anything to critzise someone else, even his family. And heīs nearly 60 years old. Heīs starting to realize that his comments arenīt welcome anymore.

    So my question is for for INTJīs in general. When did you realize that you have to think about what you say? Have you even realized this?

    I know there are other MBTI types that can unintentionally insult people but imo INTJīs are the worst.
    About 4 or 5 years old. It doesn't really take much working out.

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    This past year I've become noticeably more tactful...mostly with strangers/acquaintances and friends. I'm 25. I think it's been MBTI related. Once you acquire a certain level of self-awareness you watch your words and actions more carefully.

    Still working on it with family. I don't seem to censor myself with them at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bri View Post
    My father is an INTJ also, and he has always been good about thinking before he speaks. So, I learned from his example. My INTJ brother seems to have learned by his example as well. It's not that we don't make mistakes now and then, but for the most part we all try to take a "you attract more flies with honey than vinegar" approach to life.
    Wait a second . . . are you trying to convince us that you, your dad, and your brother are all INTJs? Are you aware that MBTI is non-hereditary and that the actual percentage of INTJs is minuscule? Moreover, do you know that the probability of something like that occurring one in one gazillion . . . at least?

    No freaking way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HomerSoprano View Post
    I have an INTJ father that can say almost anything to critzise someone else, even his family. And heīs nearly 60 years old. Heīs starting to realize that his comments arenīt welcome anymore.

    So my question is for for INTJīs in general. When did you realize that you have to think about what you say? Have you even realized this?

    I know there are other MBTI types that can unintentionally insult people but imo INTJīs are the worst.
    I'll think about what I say if you think about what I say.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ragingkatsuki View Post
    Criticising is of course different and I expect people not to take it personally. Only to improve themselves. I do not criticise with the emotion of anger though. Destructiveness is the production of anger and hatred and getting things done with the emotion of anger means that one's perception of the world is faulty.
    But critisism can also be presented in the wrong way. Like my dad can critisise someone just for the sake critisising. And critisism is not always welcome or neccesary. Which Iīve found INTJīs have hard to understand.

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