I checked the archive and did not find a thread on this topic. If it has been discussed before, here on in the ST forums, please let me know.
I had to spend the last year working and living in close quarters with an ISTJ. We really and truly despised each other. We both found the other rude and abrasive, and when we were forced to interact we could find nothing to discuss. She is hyper-organized, responsible, and honestly I found her to be a good little sheep. If she ever had an original thought in her life I think I would fall over dead from shock. She is very status-conscious which is something I just don't understand, and very into whatever the media tells her she should be into.
One day, she was talking about her plans for the future. Knowing that she had been a former ballerina and that she talked a great deal about dancing, I asked her if she'd ever thought about teaching ballet. After all, it's honest work and something she obviously enjoyed.
She looked disgusted and said, "Are you kidding me? That is NOT how my life is going to end up."
My reply was, "Well, I certainly hope your ballet teachers who spent the last 15 years teaching you their craft don't know you think so little of their profession."
She was disgusted that I would suggest she become something so lowly as a ballet teacher. I was disgusted that she would think it was beneath her. Our priorities and thoughts were on such different levels that it was nearly impossible for us to communicate with each other without butting heads. Almost the only good thing I can say about her is that she was very responsible and that she would often volunteer to do things no one else wanted to do. I respected her for that. But on a personal level we just did not like each other.
Is it common for INTPs and ISTJs to not get along? Or were we an unfortunate pair of an INTP and an ISTJ who just had no basis for friendship?