Longer answer: I find it difficult to value and devote energy to the machinations that make casual friendships work. I get little stimulation from them, so I've only gathered a small amount of close friends who I really, really like over the years. And even then they find me distant. I've really always kind of been more of a "girlfriend guy" if that makes any sense.
I have people that I know, everywhere I go, but there's noone close enough that I can distinctly call a friend, except for one person who I've known for years. I have a group of friends that I can see every now and again, whenever there's a party or a celebration, but I'm not close to any of them... they're all close. At school, I never really joined any groups of friends... the nerds were too nerdy, the cool people too cool.
I have 3 friends that are close enough to me that they're family. When I talk about my friends, I'm usually talking about them.
I have 4 very good friends who will probably be as close as the top 3 at some point.
And then I have about 10 friends that are more like activity partners. We hang out when we get a chance, but we don't really share much depth.
I live far away from all 3 of my closest friends, and close to only 2 of the 4 good friends. Sad...
Is that a lot? I don't know. Compared to?
There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.
Then I have "friends," who I hang out with, and can count on having a good time with. Then I have "friends" who I hang out with, but don't necessarily like more than anyone else. I'll hang out with just about anyone, but this doesn't mean I like them. By the way, I don't mean to say I don't like them- I'm just indifferent about them.
And I have archenemies.
"Poor bastard. Wait 'till he sees the bats. "
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I go through phases, I always have a few close friends, but then I usually have a much wider social net work with much shallower relationships. I run two social networks, one of about 35 and one of about 20.... although to any event I'd expect a max of ten for either network, they are more aquantances...
Right now all my best freinds have buggered off somewhere so I'm feeling a bit rudderless. Oh well just another life cycle....