My girlfriend is exhibiting signs of mental/physical stress. She has been experiencing feelings of nausea, difficulty in both sleeping and eating and can't seem to get rid of her anxiety towards the future. Her anxiety being: Where am I going to live and with whom?, am I going to be able to pay off my loans?, where am I going to find a new job?, will they call me back and hire me?
Certainly these are common concerns but the one in italics at the moment has literally consumed her life. She applied for a state directorial childcare service and has been notified that they would like to interview her again. They are going to interview her next Wednesday and then she'll know on the following Monday after that her status with them.
I suggested to her that whilst I understand your desire to succeed/have a good career, your anxiety is making you miss out on the present: a clean apartment, sending her computer off to get fixed, hanging out, me.
I ran an experiment to see if it was anxiety/stress related by distracting her using methods such as kissing her, talking to her, touching her, etc. She reacted normal, normal as in herself, but as soon as silence or inaction occurred, within minutes, I could see that she was going back into her head and feelings of nausea, stress/anxiety, weakness would overcome her. Fortunately, she isn't (and hopefully, never will) dependent on me. Dependent, in the sense that she can not function without me.
Focusing on present, coupled with a mutual suggestion of starting a list and slowly tackling it one day at a time seems to alleviate things (for the moment?)?
So my question to ENTJs: how do you deal with anxiety in the form of not being able to control a situation?