[NT] betas

[Mad Hatter]

Considering most people understood my meaning, it probably is common knowledge.

The my is odd? (you've lost me with MyNe, whatever you're referring to is probably not common knowledge)

Considering that you thought it warranted a thread and the number of posts that asked for a clearer definition, it probably isn't common knowledge, or at least it's not well-defined.

I just think the "my" in "my beta" is odd because it has a somewhat affectionate ring to it, which would speak against it being meant as an insult.

(The MyNe was a pun on "emphasis mine", using my Ne.)

 

[murkrow]

Well the problem I'm having with the situation is specifically the relationship that I'm accused of having with this guy.

That he's a subordinate of mine in some way, which I don't want.

 

[Mad Hatter]

Ah okay, unclear pronoun reference problem.

I thought that might be an option as well; thanks for clearing it up. I thought the "my" referred to the girl that said it - not to you.

 

[tinkerbell]

Well the problem I'm having with the situation is specifically the relationship that I'm accused of having with this guy.

That he's a subordinate of mine in some way, which I don't want.

can you give us more details, or is it just people see you as leading someone?

Not everyone can lead, and even leaders need to follow at time. I find the whole concepts of Alpha male thing as being pretty abnoious, it's kind of like saying a person is a prat and up on themselves... which might be a british perspective.....

 

[Metamorphosis]

Males operate hierarchically. Everyone can't be a leader, just like everyone can't be a follower. I don't see what the problem is.

 

[The_Liquid_Laser]

The terms "alpha" and "beta" are degrading to the people who use them.

 

[Alpha Prime]

Well the problem I'm having with the situation is specifically the relationship that I'm accused of having with this guy.

That he's a subordinate of mine in some way, which I don't want.

Well, there is a status hierarchy in all social settings. It's a fact, regardless of what people think, or what prejudices they apparently have of alphas/betas/whatever.

I say get over it.

The terms "alpha" and "beta" are degrading to the people who use them.

You just degraded yourself with that statement.

 

[the state i am in]

I just think the "my" in "my beta" is odd because it has a somewhat affectionate ring to it, which would speak against it being meant as an insult.

aww, beta, you're all grows up! time for a ruffling of the hair and a pinching of the cheeks! etc.

 

[Mad Hatter]

aww, beta, you're all grows up! time for a ruffling of the hair and a pinching of the cheeks! etc.

(and that's presumably the most violent emoticon there is on this forum. I am the green guy.)

I actually wonder why the lady in the OP thought it necessary to mention it in the first place.
In other words, what's the point of trying to create a hierarchy among her acquaintances (or making it explicit that there is one)?

 

[thisGuy]

it woudlnt bother me

id just think smile that this girl really doesn't know me. from then on id play with her...act like a "beta"

that said, there is always a hierarchy in social circles no matter what. its everyone has different strengths. in a party, you'd be the amazing dude; in a hockey field, i might be