Well the problem I'm having with the situation is specifically the relationship that I'm accused of having with this guy.
That he's a subordinate of mine in some way, which I don't want.
can you give us more details, or is it just people see you as leading someone?
Not everyone can lead, and even leaders need to follow at time. I find the whole concepts of Alpha male thing as being pretty abnoious, it's kind of like saying a person is a prat and up on themselves... which might be a british perspective.....
aww, beta, you're all grows up! time for a ruffling of the hair and a pinching of the cheeks! etc.
(and that's presumably the most violent emoticon there is on this forum. I am the green guy.)
I actually wonder why the lady in the OP thought it necessary to mention it in the first place.
In other words, what's the point of trying to create a hierarchy among her acquaintances (or making it explicit that there is one)?