Do INTJs prefer to be the pursuer or the pursued? I'd like to hear from INTJs themselves or SOs to INTJs. Just curious.
I prefer to be pursued. When I am the pursuer I am never fully convinced that the other person's feelings are true. I always suspect that it's like an innocent man who confesses to a crime under intense interrogation. I realize this is a very bad thing.
Everybody have fun tonight. Everybody Wang Chung tonight.
Be yourself. And by that, I mean, show him your serious sensitive side, then switch to naughty little minx who can whoop his ass and will, to innocent and sweet. Make him curious, show him glimpses of what's inside. And give him time to figure out that he wants to know this stuff. Regularly remind him that you're there and you want his attention, then leave mulling things over. Be approachable.
Give his brain a break from organizing and conquering the world and show him yours, where he doesn't have to do anything but enjoy your antics.