before you answer take a nice pause, and take a very "proud" pace while you're speaking, that way any inturuption in your answer will look extremely rude, and it makes you look a lot more inteligent and well thought out. This "proud" also will allow for a little extra thinking time as you speak. (Which is nice and makes for a better thought out answer... one you can't pick apart as easily)
Also, I'm sure you find a lot of small flaws with the other person's argument. Pick whatever seems most obvious and don't necessarily be critical of it, rather think of a resolution, or two, or three. (I'm sure you can)
This gives you serious brownie points.
For cereal yo. (that would be delicous)
I have a natural tendency to speak as fast as I think If I let go. Even to the point that I might mean to say one word and say another that I'm thinking of as my brain jets off at light speed. Also, stutering. Embarassing.I've noticed that I get frustrated with Ti in these situations because, although I have a very logical answer in my head, I can't always articulate it as quickly as the ESTJ/ENTJ. So, it seems to him and others that he's out-thinking me. But, there comes a breaking point where the frustration builds up and I just let the "filter" go out the window. My thoughts start to fly freely right back at him and there is a good and bad side to this.
If I slow the heck down, I'll beat you to a pulp.
But that's my problem.
"sorry about..."The bad side of this is that when I turn my Ti into Te it can be very "biting". It can come off extremely harsh, to the point to where people look at you like "Whoa...what the heck did he eat for breakfast this morning?" It can offend, it can burn bridges, it can cause people to say, "I don't see that person as someone I'd want to be friends with" (although there is still some level of respect because they know that you don't take any crap off people).
goes a long way, if you're worried about people.
If it's going to make life easier for you, there's no question about it.Opinions? I was thinking about resolutions for 2010 (I don't really do the resolution thing), but I thought that maybe I need to work on letting my thoughts fly a little more often. Learning to let myself get to that place where I speak my mind more often (surely it can be accessed in other ways besides being angry) - and trying to tame it a little bit so as to not alienate people, but to still command the respect of those I do business with. I don't put a ton of stock in "getting people's respect", but I bring this up for business purposes. In these kinds of settings, you really have to play hardball sometimes or you end up getting walked on.
Thoughts from INTP's and others who are familiar with us as to whether or not this is a good strategy or not and why you feel that way?
My ENTJ brother totally tought me how to deal.
(he even gives me pointers sometimes)