User Tag List

First 678910 Last

Results 71 to 80 of 101

  1. #71
    Senior Member ceecee's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    8w9
    Posts
    9,707

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by SerengetiBetty View Post
    and how many people people regardless of type are happy in their marriage, or all the divorce rates coming from people married to INTPs?
    I love how this topic has turned into blame the INTP when it's pretty obvious that the OP was also acting like a jerk.
    Right.



    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    yea i'm starting to notice a bit of immaturity with her. I read somewhere that INTPs usually don't get married. anyone want to elaborate?
    Maybe it's just you she wouldn't want to marry.
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

  2. #72
    にゃん runvardh's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    6w7 sx/so
    Socionics
    IEI
    Posts
    8,559

    Default

    I don't know, I guess the only thing here that is distilling into fact is that you two shouldn't be together. Sucks ass, but we were never given the promise that we'd all do great with everyone we try to date. Finding a girl from the correct sample group is tough shit and gets worse with the more things that need to be compatible - but somethings you need to learn to live with.
    Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.

    INFP, 6w7, IEI

    I accept no responsibility, what so ever, for the fact that I exist; I do, however, accept full responsibility for what I do while I exist.

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  3. #73
    Senior Member Jonathanthegreat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Posts
    166

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by SerengetiBetty View Post
    and how many people people regardless of type are happy in their marriage, or all the divorce rates coming from people married to INTPs?
    I love how this topic has turned into blame the INTP when it's pretty obvious that the OP was also acting like a jerk.
    How was I acting like a jerk?

  4. #74
    Senior Member ceecee's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    8w9
    Posts
    9,707

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    How was I acting like a jerk?

    May I?


    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post

    Recently I took her to the ballet and she said it was the number 1 date she's ever been on and I asked what number two was and it was a date this guy took her out on. Idk why but it drives me NUTS and I wanna smash this kids head with a brick.
    Jerk Exhibit #1

    Also they both supported obama together and both don't believe in God and she had sex with him on a rooftop (I'm a conservative republican christian, a religious enfj shocker i know). Idk this shit all makes me so FURIOUS.
    Jerk Exhibit #2. You think she is a total idiot for having different political views than you and YOU'RE DATING HER!

    I haven't spoke to her about it also he made fun of me recently via IM. I read it she asked him a question and he said "ask your bf he hears from God directly :p"
    Reading other people's private IM conversation Jerk Exhibit #3. Didn't your mother teach you manners?

    I am a psychology major so I am trying to have closure on this subject because it's literally eating me up inside. But yeah basically I want to smash this kid's head with a brick and I dont wanna feel like that. So someone help please? also please feel free to ask questions if you feel they would lead to answers
    If you have paid any attention in your classes, you would already know why you feel this way.
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

  5. #75
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    3

    Default

    I agree with ceecee.

    Let's not blame the INTP only. It's not all her fault. The fact that she doesn't want him to talk to his EN friend doesn't change the fact that he is also being imature.

    I wouldn't be ok with telling a bf to stop talking to someone else because I'm jealous, I'd rather sit and talk about how I dislike the person/ am uncomfortable with their friendship, and if I'm unable to talk about it (which is very likely) I would become distant and cold, which is very imature, I know. But asking to stop talking to a person... I really think it's very weird to come from an INTP.

    I'm not saying that's what happened, but I always have a miscomunication with F's when I tell them I'm uncomfortable with something and they take it as if I said they couldn't do that. But I would never prohibit them to do that. It sooo goes against everything I think a relationship should be and I think it'd be the same for most INTP's.

    Both of you are being very imature. You should try to talk to each other.


    Here is the survey some people mentioned:

    * Most important feature of an ideal job: creativity and originality; earning a lot of money.
    * Males were highest on "obliviousness index" (relatively unaware of spouse's dissatisfaction with the relationship).
    * Highly represented among college students taking foreign languages.
    * In national sample, ranked 3rd highest in saying "No" and 2nd highest in "Not sure" to belief in a higher spiritual power.
    * In national sample "Leisure Activities," overrepresented in "Appreciating art," "Writing," "Taking classes, going to school," and "Playing with computers or video games."
    * Academic subjects preferred: art, science.
    * Lowest of all types in liking work environments with "Clear structures & responsibilities," "Employee loyalty & job security," and "Working as part of a team"
    * 1 of 3 highest types liking work environments with "International opportunities" and "Advancement/pay but not job security"
    * Include in top 3 desirable work environment characteristics "Variety of tasks," "Independence & achievement," and "Clear structures."
    * In national sample, dissatisfied with "Salary," "Promotions," and "Job security," "Predictability," and "Working conditions" in their jobs.
    * With INFPs, most dissatisfied with the work they do, where they work, and future work opportunities, and likely to leave job.
    * With ISTPs, had the lowest mean level of coping resources; ranked 16th out of 16 types on total resources.
    * Most frequent among college students referred for drug and alcohol violations.

    And INFJ's ranked highest in being dissatisfied with "Marriage/intimate relationship".

    Unfortunally, the oficial page of the survey seems to be off, so I had to take it from another forum.

    But what the OP is feeling and how the girl is acting doesn't seem to have much to do with her weak Fe.
    5w4 RCUEI

  6. #76
    Senior Member Jonathanthegreat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Posts
    166

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ceecee View Post
    May I?




    Jerk Exhibit #1



    Jerk Exhibit #2. You think she is a total idiot for having different political views than you and YOU'RE DATING HER!



    Reading other people's private IM conversation Jerk Exhibit #3. Didn't your mother teach you manners?



    If you have paid any attention in your classes, you would already know why you feel this way.

    Pretty abrasive and ignorant. exhibiting human emotions (anger/jealousy) doesn't make one a jerk. Thanks for your opinion though.

    Didn't your mother teach you manners?

  7. #77
    Senior Member Robert165's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Posts
    257

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    Pretty abrasive and ignorant. exhibiting human emotions (anger/jealousy) doesn't make one a jerk. Thanks for your opinion though.

    Didn't your mother teach you manners?
    hey, i realize you were just telling your side of the story and being honest, but i got to tell you, and i'm a pretty non judgemental person, that i had all the same problems/reactions that other people had who have criticized you. so even if you don't like what people had to say, listen to what they have to say. i dont think you're a "bad" person, but reading all that is easy to give a person a bad reaction.........

    so try calming down a bit and taking responsiblity for your intense feelings instead of feeling like a victim. thats my advice.

    having said that, i really do hope that you work things out with this girl, or, with the next one, or whomever you settle down with. romance is hard and painful. so i'll say again i do not thnk you're a bad guy, but your intensity throws people off a bit.
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/robert165/

    I'm just trying to do this Jigsaw puzzle, before it rains anymore.

  8. #78
    Senior Member SubjectA's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    1
    Posts
    164

    Default

    Never expect an INTJ to be soft about anything.

    None of us here are hoping you two fail, but in my honest opinion both of you are acting very immature. She seems like she's full of double-standards and doesn't really take your beliefs or feelings into consideration, and you're being controlling and getting unreasonably enraged at this guy whom she's not even cheating on you with. I can tell you right now that if you two don't communicate a little more, this relationship is going to go down in flames.

    Also, I recommend taking a step back from the situation, if you can, and really ask yourself with a clear mind what's not worth getting worked up over and where the real problems are. Because if you approach her yelling and screaming (not saying you necessarily will), it will end badly. You might be the one that has to take the high road here.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  9. #79
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    ISFP
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    138

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ceecee View Post
    Yikes! Did you have these religious dispositions before you got married?

    I was catholic when we married but not a practising catholic. After 24 years together I developed my own world views and became an atheist which is hard for him to accept. Things happen during midlife; he become more religious and I became less.
    Last edited by Julie1962; 12-28-2009 at 01:44 PM.

  10. #80
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    ISFP
    Enneagram
    5
    Posts
    138

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    yea i'm starting to notice a bit of immaturity with her. I read somewhere that INTPs usually don't get married. anyone want to elaborate?

    She may be immature but you want to smash this guys head in! What does that make you?

    I wonder if INTPs don't marry because they are very logical, rational people in a world of irrational emotional people. After reading about your strong feelings and violent thoughts, I don't blame them one bit for staying single!

    You need counseling for your anger and jealousy issues. The news is full of stories about crimes of passion. Would hate to see you in one of them!

    Good luck!

Similar Threads

  1. [INTP] What is your favorite environment? Especially INTPs
    By Musicallogic in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 32
    Last Post: 07-16-2012, 09:22 PM
  2. [NT] NT Women
    By tinkerbell in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 72
    Last Post: 12-24-2009, 11:16 PM
  3. [NT] Question for NT Women - Are you a feminist?
    By Lauren Ashley in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 77
    Last Post: 03-06-2009, 04:48 PM
  4. [NT] Where do you find NT women?
    By Risen in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 192
    Last Post: 01-29-2009, 03:45 PM
  5. [NT] How do NT women differ from NT men?
    By centerofthesun in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 277
    Last Post: 01-19-2009, 10:04 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO