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    I once had a fear of success, and I replaced it with a fear of failure. It was brilliant, but no one appreciated it (going the extra mile and working outside the box has done nothing except given me average-below average grades. This wouldn't be so bad if my Dad wasn't pounding his INTJ-ness into my head, and my mother, her ISFJ), and now it has been usurped by a fear of success.

    Why am I afraid to succeed? Because I'm afraid I might lose the ability to goddamn fail!

    Failures are opportunities to move forward with a new thought or idea in hand, and I think that for every creative misdemeanor I committed, it foreshadowed something new and shiny just around the block, and I did well to seize it. In other words, I don't want to succeed *within the realm of the rubric*, and yet it feels like the rubric is pulling my big ideas down to size. They teach me not how to execute the big ideas but then how to do the little ones, and then when I actually have a big opportunity I have no idea what to do with it.

    grrrr it's a defeatist attitude </rant>

    (PS what's my type based on this post)

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    I live around people with a large fear of failure. But, like most things, I get through it by not being like the people around me. Call me an emotional leech, but there's a calming aspect of being around anxious people.
    If a deaf INFP falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Matthew_Z View Post
    I live around people with a large fear of failure. But, like most things, I get through it by not being like the people around me. Call me an emotional leech, but there's a calming aspect of being around anxious people.
    How is being around anxious people calming? Aside maybe from taking solace in "welp... at least I'm not THAT fucked up"
    Listen to me, baby, you got to understand, you're old enough to learn the makings of a man.

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    That, really.

    No, but that's cocky. But there's something about keeping your calm when all around you is failing that lightens not only you, but the rest of the group up.

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    your avatar just made me laugh real hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Edgar View Post
    How is being around anxious people calming? Aside maybe from taking solace in "welp... at least I'm not THAT fucked up"
    Don't underestimate the power of that solace.
    If a deaf INFP falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

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    Quote Originally Posted by cloud View Post
    Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.

    or

    my version:

    Only those dare to fail have a chance to suceed.


    Do you agree or not

    You've really only failed when you've quit attempting to succeed. Failure is just a state of mind. The saying should be more like this:

    Only those who don't dare to succeed are the true failures.

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    OK I'll be contrarian...fear of failure is one of my biggest motivations to succeed. kind of like, perfectionism, or something.

    Try looking at an INTP who's given up on their fear of failure and you'll see what I mean, the results arent good in my expreience (hint: a lot on INTPc).

    Of course, I wouldn't necessarilly apply this to other mbti types. but maybe for int's, fear of failure can be a positive motivation?
    "Of course we spent our money in the good times. That's what you're supposed to do in good times! You can't save money in the good times. Then they wouldn't be good times, they'd be 'preparation for the bad times' times."

    "Every country in the world owes money. Everyone. So heere's what I dont get: who do they all owe it to, and why don't we just kill the bastard and relax?"

    -Tommy Tiernan, Irish comedian.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teslashock View Post
    You've really only failed when you've quit attempting to succeed. Failure is just a state of mind. The saying should be more like this:

    Only those who don't dare to succeed are the true failures.
    well, failure could be doing nothing.
    There is really no straight definition of failure.

    Sometimes it is wise to quit though when there is no chance of success.
    The fear of poverty turns people into slaves of money.

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    Conquer your inner demons first before you conquer the world.

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    It's a truth.
    One I still fear.
    Curse my cautious mind.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    "Fools who wear their hearts proudly on their sleeves,
    who cannot control their emotions, who wallow in sad
    memories and allow themselves to be provoked this
    easily -- weak people, in other words -- they stand no chance."
    -Severus Snape

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