Anyway, I have nothing constructive to tell you about your situation. It probably would have worked out between us if, I dunno, I'd like to say "if we had both done things differently" but really it probably would have worked out better if he weren't so emotionally distant. Course, it'd be irrational to "write off" INTJs in the future, but maybe I'd be more inclined to try one who's a little more in touch with his feelings.
Them feeling things aren't bad. Can't really see the point of a romantic relationship without them.