Typically I try not to run away, but at times its hard to do. College has been wonderful for me because I've had complete control of my schedule. When I am faced with a undesired social situation I usually pace around then pull out the phone and start messing with it when I tell them I'm spitting. I hate the stupid phone, but its always in my hand and I just hit buttons and when I leave its usually displaying weather or the market recap, and I still wonder why I'm boring...
I escape when there is a lot of socializing going on and where there is going to be some amount of focusing on me. If I know that I'm going to have to answer questions like, "what do you do?", "what have you been up to?", etc., it's just not fun at all. It's the opposite of fun.
-Family reunions with 10-30 family members that I really don't know well but I'll have to go through a never-ending line of questions about myself and my life.
-The first day of a new class. When in college, I thoroughly enjoyed the first night of a new class because I was excited about the things I'd be learning in the class. But, the introductions where you have to stand up and tell 3 things about yourself were brutal. I'd be "preparing my speech" in my head instead of listening to others.
-Meeting an acquaintance out in public. Most INxx's probably cringe when they're filling up their gas tank or in the grocery store and they hear some loud voice say their name.
Why do I escape?
-Having to engage them in conversation, pulls me (and keeps me) out of Ti (not a good reason, but still the truth because Ti is a very "comfortable" place for me). Sometimes, if I'm really deep in thought, it can even be startling to have someone call out my name in public.
-In the case of the family reunion and the class introductions, it feels very much like we are just "going through the motions". It feels like an interrogation and a formality that tomorrow is going to make absolutely no difference to either party. I guess what makes it worse is the fact that I feel misunderstood and perhaps judged. I have one family member that always "escapes" these situations - leaves early, goes into another room, etc. and everyone else (the so-called "normal ones") - talks about him like he's a lame duck and an idiot. But, I'm just like him. I like him the most of them all. I do think he should try more (as should I), but I get him. And I hear what they say about him and it's horrible. I've also heard him (and other friends) who are "deep people" who get judged and talked about left and right when they express their true selves openly and honestly. So, it closes me up. As it is, it takes a lot of my energy to open up to people - so why do it if they're just going to talk about you or say how strange you are later the next day?
If I know you aren't judgmental, I'll open up. If you're judgmental, you're not going to know the "inner me". I'm just not going to show it to you.
I do this at least several times a week. When I see someone that I know, I usually walk in the other direction. If I'm forced to go somewhere, I usually talk to one or two people and eventually disappear... only if I'm able to. Sometimes I hate being stuck somewhere without the possibility of disappearing.
Between that cigarillo and sticking my finger down my throat to see if I could DT, I feel like puking RN.
Oh yes, all the time. My roommates always have parties, and it'll be like 20 people, all of whom I like and would be glad to hang out with in smaller groups, but all at once it's just too many and I want them all to go away. So usually I hide in my room.
My father always criticized my great uncle for "running away" behavior. Also a characteristic of almost any male on my father's side of the family. Naturally, trying to learn from their mistakes (their mistake I identified to be their apparent inconsistency in dealing with situations of socializing)I avoid running away almost as a rule. I'll either avoid coming out of my element without adequate preparation OR simply take the social situation until it's gone.
It's generally consistent with many of my behaviors. I've never wanted to end up like my father, especially when it comes to social interaction. He handles his high anxiety with prescription anti-depressants and the like. I find myself more than capable of handling my neural chemical balance without the need for assistance from medication. Avoiding stressful (fight-or-flight) situations is preferred, fight is taken when avoidance cannot(or, perhaps should not), and flight is always preferred against. Admittedly, I've picked up his habit of leaving an area the moment an (social) event is over, but I justify keeping the behavior because efficiency is nice and there's not too much of a reason to be stuck.
If a deaf INFP falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?
When I see someone that I know, I usually walk in the other direction.
Haha, I did something like that just last week. I was on my way back from shopping, and I spotted one of my classmate/acquaintances seated on a bench, in the middle of the highstreet. So I meandered my way behind the bench and walked past her, because she always stops for a chat. My earphones were plugged in, plus I never like standing around in public and chatting. I decided it wasn't worth the bother.
I don't usually "run away", though. I find out where everyone else is and ensure to avoid those specific locations unless I need to contact them. In which case I'd probably email them.
Honestly, it depends on the context of the company. It's not really an uncomfortable thing to be around with people, it's just that once I've gone through the introductory basics and showmanship it feels like the possibilities have been exhausted. At clubs, I'm usually the first one in but the first one out. Going against the flow feels like an impulse, but not necessarily catalyzing one and sticking with it :p
The dinner parties that my parents throw are amazing, because it's not only the food that keeps me anchored, but the people my Dad invites. They're great to get involved with because most of them are just like me or work with people just like me.