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    Quote Originally Posted by Modern Nomad View Post
    i would just delete her comment, and pretend you never read it. make the next entry something completely unrelated to that.

    well my advice from the beginning was to go about your facebook life as if you don't know she's there. your blog shows differently though. at this point, delete her comment and pretend you never saw it is my advice.

    anyways this is funny. using a forum to discuss a facebook social situation. my how the world has changed. lolz
    Well, I thought of that, but then I thought I'd leave her comment there - otherwise I could be accused of censoring people who say things I don't like. Also, I thought well, she's spoken for herself, let her testimony stand so these "people" she's worried about can give her a "fair hearing" LOL

    I thought I'd also give her a little more rope, by briefly responding "There was no reason anyone would've assumed I was talking about you, until you came of your own volition with this bizarre attack, neatly demonstrating exactly why there was every need to block you!"

    And sure enough, she hung herself - had to have the last word, so she added "yeah ok, whatever!"

    I thought you never intended to contact me again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ergophobe View Post
    Thank you! This is stuff, regardless of type. I can't imagine any mature, sensible person, regardless of type thinking an invasion of privacy in the grossest of ways and cutting someone off to then follow their life, against their wishes, is sane or acceptable. ENFP or not, Proximo, your decision to block this non-friend seems wise. Engaging her would just encourage the madness...

    I can't help but think that we've all met some fairly crazy people along the way, across types. I hope we won't associate everyone who shares their type with their behavior.

    Thank you. This is extremely reasonable. Some people look at this behavior and think this is completely normal. I'm glad this is *not* indicative of ENFPs in general, regardless of my and Proximo's experiences.

    I agree with the consensus to block, for sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by proximo View Post
    I thought I'd also give her a little more rope, by briefly responding "There was no reason anyone would've assumed I was talking about you, until you came of your own volition with this bizarre attack, neatly demonstrating exactly why there was every need to block you!"

    And sure enough, she hung herself - had to have the last word, so she added "yeah ok, whatever!"

    I thought you never intended to contact me again?

    hahahaha...

    Do you have an option to alert people when you respond to their comments, or is she just frantically refreshing your page hour by hour to see if you reply?

    Either way, run. Run as fast as you can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    hahahaha...

    Do you have an option to alert people when you respond to their comments, or is she just frantically refreshing your page hour by hour to see if you reply?

    Either way, run. Run as fast as you can.
    No, no alert option set up.

    I'm done with her, I let her have the last word then moved on with new posts about other things. I'm sure it's not the last I'll hear from her, but I know the next time won't be at my instigation, either. And I will just totally ignore in future.

    Interestingly enough, I know another ENFP (male), who can't handle being blocked, either. He contacted an old friend of his, from whom he became estranged years ago, through Facebook. The guy gave him a chance, but it soon turned out they had nothing in common any more - the friend was now a married man with kids, bills to pay, a career and all this, whilst the ENFP was still roaming from pillar to post, freeloading off other people and without a job to his name in years; he got on the friend's nerves, and started trying to freeload off him, too. The friend sent him a tactful message saying that although he had thought it was nice to be back in touch to start with, he now realised that they'd both changed and moved on in their lives and had little in common any more, so he thought it best that they went their separate ways again. This was a year or two ago - the ENFP still rants about it to other people to this day, about how unfair and "c*ntish" (his word) he thinks the guy was for brushing him off. He reckons if you don't want to be his friend any more, you should just carry on tactfully declining his company with excuses forever and ever, to save his face, and doesn't agree that the guy's honest and up front method was honourable or fair. It's clear to anyone who hears him talking about it that it's FAR more about bruised ego at being let go, than any attachment he felt to this guy or sadness he felt at losing him.

    He also believes, when he gets negative responses from people who know them both, that this is due to the other guy having "slagged him off" behind his back... the guy never mentions him, and even if you do, he changes the subject quickly without making any comment, and doesn't want to go into it!

    I did say at the start by the way, in the OP, that I acknowledged this was more of a "crazy person" thing than an ENFP thing... but crazy ENFP's have a way of manifesting their craziness that's different to other types, still, wouldn't you say?
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    ^^Oh, I've been there, too. Oh well... And we got confirmation that this is not type related, just a whole bunch of rotten eggs that are ruining it for everyone else, I guess.

    Glad you are moving forward.

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    Yeah.

    It's a shame marmalade didn't share the rest of her thoughts on this on the thread...

    Let me make it clear that my usage of the word "stalky" was meant casually and light-heartedly. My tone in the OP was meant to be curious and amused; that's the only way in which I'm emotionally affected by this whole thing. I don't see myself as a "victim" of anything and all I see her as really, is something like an incomplete sudoku with a mystery error somewhere in the pattern that I'm trying to find and figure out how it screwed with the rest of the square. I'm not upset at all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by proximo View Post
    I did say at the start by the way, in the OP, that I acknowledged this was more of a "crazy person" thing than an ENFP thing... but crazy ENFP's have a way of manifesting their craziness that's different to other types, still, wouldn't you say?
    I agree with that. Supposedly, an ENFP on the brink of a emotional breakdown gets paranoid, but I don't know. I've seen a number of post that suggest that more than a few people here are meeting and involving themselves with ENFPs on the edge of a psychotic break. What's up with that? According to one of the big type surveys, ENFPs have the best ability to cope positively with emotional stress. Where are yall finding these crazy ENFPs who don't seem to know how to cope with much of anything at all, and then take it out by openly unleashing their fury? I guess I'm just not familiar with all the open displays of emotion. Doesn't seem very ENFP, to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by proximo View Post
    And sure enough, she hung herself - had to have the last word, so she added "yeah ok, whatever!"

    I thought you never intended to contact me again?

    well u got the last word now. (her last words was just symbolic ones, not real last words lol) hopefully that makes her grow up

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    I also don't know that it's normal behavior for someone to keep posting on your wall when you've told them not to, saying "I'll stop when I want to" just because they disagree with you, whether that person is an ENFP or an ENTP...particularly someone who hypocritically is criticizing others for being invasive. Some people just have to have the last word.

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    ^^ That's not at all what happened. But of course, the posts were conveniently deleted.

    You initiated conversation with me via rep comment. Then when we were communicating, I told you I was done with the convo. Then you wrote me and told me to stop writing you because it was your wall, and I told you that I already was stopping because I wanted to (which I had already expressed) - not because you told me to.

    Talk about the last word... at least tell the truth.

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