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View Poll Results: IRL, what's your level of expressiveness of your problems/feelings?

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  • I openly express to nobody, or only if prodded by certain people.

    28 45.16%
  • I openly express to a select few close friends &/or family members.

    23 37.10%
  • I openly express to most of my friends &/or family.

    1 1.61%
  • I openly express to anyone who might offer me some consolation.

    3 4.84%
  • I am not INTP, but I want to vote.

    7 11.29%
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  1. #11
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    Crap.

    I voted before I read the OP, and now I need to provide an explanation upon pain of being rude.

    I voted with the OP for the same reasons. I'll add that I' don't think anyone outside my small circle of close friends/family wants to hear how I feel. Most of the time, I don't think my close family and friends want to hear how I feel, and so I'll only open up to them if I absolutely, 100% have to vent or else explode.

    Maybe I'm just projecting on others, but I think feelings are a largely irrelevant epiphenomena of rationality, and they ought to be accorded as much attention in thought and discussion as their relevance permits and no more.

    Please, if you can't show how your feelings bear on the subject at hand, (e.g. if you don't discuss them you'll explode, thus negating your ability to address the topic--or any topic--at hand), then don't share them with me, and I'll not share mine with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTPness View Post
    ENTP's (and other NT's) seem to want to talk about "science" type stuff more than "feelings".

    I'm not a scientist, and I'd rather talk about art than science. But yeah, I'm bad at talking about feelings. It's not that I don't want to. I'm just not good at it. I try to express my feelings with actions.
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    I dont mind talking about my feelings, especially if it helps me or others. But I tend to keep them to myself when amongst people I dont know well, there have been too many times I've been open to others only to have them use what they have found out agaisnt me.
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    I prefer not to share emotions with others. If I'm having a bad time I'll disappear if at all possible until it's over.
    Unfortunately I have a hard time keeping in touch with my inner state until it's all too late. Like the emotion dial reads 1 or 10, nothing in between.
    That has led to some horribly embarrassing episodes of public crying that I'd rather not remember.

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    On a scale of 1 to 10 on openness, I'm probably at 2.
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    I think part of why I don't talk about or share emotions is that I feel that they are largely irrelevant in most contexts. I see people sharing emotions sometimes in ways that I know are strictly manipulative, to get attention or sympathy or even tangible things. I see people sharing emotions to get things to go their way, when it would be better for the group at large to consider everyone, rather than one person's personal feelings on the subject or sad circumstances. I guess in a lot of cases, I don't see why anyone should care about what I happen to be feeling at the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I think one thing here is that I "objectify" my emotions before I reveal them. In other words, while the listeners might still just see them as emotional states attached to my identify (and thus private things that should be uncomfortable to express publicly), what I typically have done is taken them in my head, packaged them up almost as individual entities on their own apart from my own sense of self, and put them out there for review...

    I think few people really ever get to see my emotions raw, as they come out. First of all, I just generally am not ever swept away by emotions in the external world; my internal landscape might become tortured and shattered, but externally you will usually see stability unless I trust someone enough personally to bring it up. I almost never lash out in anger, and so the deepest emotions someone might see is tears. Only a few people (the ones I love and trust the most) have ever seen me on an uncontrollable crying jag; I'd rather be alone if I'm that far gone
    Quote Originally Posted by Costrin View Post
    Very few people get to see my raw emotions. And those are generally positive emotions. When I'm feeling something negative, I tend to keep it bottled up until I feel that I've sufficiently analysed it and understood it enough and that it's something worthy of being brought up, especially when it's something related to the other person.
    Wow. I really indentify with this. Maybe this is a enneagram 5 user thing or something (BTW how many of you are?). I know I hate how my raw emotions struggle to free themselves from my control. I guess the controlled slow release of emotions is the way 5s struggle to overcome this.

    Very interesting to read all your comments.

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    I just yesterday told a friend of mine I was seriously jealous of somebody. I felt relieved and better able to cope with it after talking about it. But I wouldn't normally do this.
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    It's not that I have problems opening up to people.

    It's that I don't know how to define feelings into proper words. It requires seriously deep thought and consideration in order to say it in the right words, covering all the angles.

    It can be a pretty long and ardious task, so I tend not to bother unless I have a reason for it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fluffywolf View Post
    It's not that I have problems opening up to people.

    It's that I don't know how to define feelings into proper words. It requires seriously deep thought and consideration in order to say it in the right words, covering all the angles.

    It can be a pretty long and ardious task, so I tend not to bother unless I have a reason for it.
    I agree with these. People seem to expect that I can describe emotions in just a few words. Yet the only stuff I can describe so simply are either just me repeating the words/slightly altering them or things I've spent hours thinking about from all angles. Current emotions are something that I can neither get outside input on nor have hours to choose the correct wording.
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