You guys are probably right about the J/P thing. I will need to figure out a new way to judge J/P differences. Any suggestions?
Does the person prefer to plan ahead for things, to know about what to expect in advance? Is spontaneity something they avoid? Or, do they prefer not to plan, to let things happen as they will, enjoying spontaneity, taking opportunities as they come up, and feeling confined by others' need to plan?
Does the person prefer to work in a structured environment, or on projects with a degree of srtucture in them? When taking on a project, do they begin by imposing their own structure on a plan? Or, do they work best when projects are open-ended, able to evolve as they go, without any structure imposed by them or anyone else?
These are questions that may require you to know a person a little better in order to answer - but, when you're trying to get an idea of someone's personality, that's probably not a bad thing.
So this type of girl is usually always talking. Talking about nonsense.
Yes... these kinds of people drive me crazy, too. I think there are various types who behave that way at certain times. Personally, I have trouble enduring female ESTJs... for similar reasons. I can't stand listening to what they talk about... and we don't speak the same language.
That first paragraph was a sad attempt to interject humor into what appeared to be a tense conversation that was veering of the original track...I wasn't feeling scornful, actually, just a little amused at what looked from the outside like a disjointed tit for tat.
I getcha. And I wasn't actually accusing you of over-much scorn. Really just observing the existence of the INXJ mission, that willingness to know what's right and be short with everything else. (It relates to the OP too because that annoyance comes from somewhere, dunnit?)
And for the on-topic record:
ESFJs I have known are cheerful and energetic girls, but do seem never to know what I'm talking about. They probably do know, but when it comes out of my mouth it is all about the truth of things and processes, and that stuff doesn't seem to register in the way I expect it to. ESFPs in my very limited experience are different. One ESFP guy and I used to have adjoining cubicles, and I never used to get the impression he didn't know what I was saying. It was much more just that he had other things to do, like chase girls, play poker, go to lunch, call a friend, whatev, get out and about.
Bellison uncorked a flood of horrible profanity, which, translated, meant, "This is extremely unusual."
I getcha. And I wasn't actually accusing you of over-much scorn. Really just observing the existence of the INXJ mission, that willingness to know what's right and be short with everything else. (It relates to the OP too because that annoyance comes from somewhere, dunnit?).
Yes, and that annoyance is something I've experienced for years. Always wondering, "Why do people talk so phony like this?" "Why can't people talk about real things, like life, and not just fluff and BS?" I always found myself asking these questions to myself. I was largely alone on this one growing up, though. It was pretty depressing. I felt like I was speaking a different language than everyone else, but mine was BETTER.
I always believed strongly in straight talk when dealing with others. Anything else is a waste of time (unless you have to adapt to a new situation to keep your job or something, but that's totally different).
A hero is someone who does the right thing without expectation of reward, just because it's the right thing to do.
I'm not sure it's entirely type defined - your description sound an awful lot like my ENFP mother (though I don't know the relative strengths of Mom's preferences - that might tell something... don't know). Mom is an 'external processor' everything has to be verbalized in order to get it into the thought process. ---And, yes, it drives me nuts!!
This type of posting makes me question my INTJ love.
By the way, I have neat handwriting. I forced myself to learn to write neatly in junior high school. I used to practice with handwriting books. Very lame way to judge P/J
Your profile pic makes me question my ENFP love.
And "neat" is also a very subjective word. Neat handwriting to you may not be the same as neat handwriting to me. That ENFP friend I mentioned told me she had very neat handwriting. When I looked at it, I wanted to throw up. So, many of the INTJs up above say their handwriting is messy and you say your handwriting is neat, but until one ultimate judge compares them (that's me), no one can really be sure.
Also, I already addressed that its probably a bad ways to judge P/J. Read before you post.