I'm curious if you have had a parent or grandparent that was kind of a mentor in terms of your maturation as an NT. My grandfather and my father were both INTJ's. My father and I had a very unique bond, but I wasn't nearly as close to my grandfather. But, I look back at times when I was a teenager and had no clue about MBTI and I remember how truly awesome my conversations were with my grandfather. We could talk for hours about this, that, and the other, completely oblivious to what the rest of the family was doing in the other room. We were from 2 different eras - he was old-school and I was a punk teenager who didn't give a flip, but man the conversation sure flowed nicely between us.
I guess if nothing else I'm just having a moment of remembering how cool he really was. Of course the rest of the fam is just as much family as him, but he has a really special place because of that sometimes unexplainable NT connection. Stories? Love to hear them.