I get accused of making up excuses really often when im only trying to explaing why certain things happened. This really pisses me off since they just wont understand what im saying to them and makes me want to explain why this isnt some stupid excuse and people just seem to think that im making excuses for making up excuses..
Does this happen to other intps often? And what do other types think about these intp "excuses"? Or are certain types just incapable of seeing difference between excuse and explaining things?
It's not really an INTP thing; it's an NT issue in general.
The difference, is that INTP's tend to express themselves less clearly on average, or going into far more detail then neccesary on points they believe are integral to the explanation.
I explain my reasoning as well, if yeu don't understand why, then yeu can't make use of that information. Knowledge means nothing without understanding.
Yeu know I was late, yeu do not understand WHY I was late. Explaining to the client that yeu held them up for 15 minutes because yeu'd just finished making a deal that would net them several million dollars makes them happy, but only if they understand why yeu were late.
The biggest thing is, honestly, the wording and phrasing when dealing with people. With the correct terms in the correct order, yeu can smooth feelings and get people to listen normally. 'normally', some people just won't listen no matter whot. If yeu came to the door holding a million dollar cheque, they'd slam the door in yeur face.
That being said though, make absolutely sure to explain that yeu have GOOD reason first, and explain the GOOD part FIRST. Going into the long explanation of the lead up to the important information just irritates people, even if yeu believe that information to be essential. If yeu've lost yeur audience before yeu get to the important part, then they never hear it. Make sure to get the key reasoning out first or yeu won't get that far.