[NT] NTs, "you know you are in love when...."

[1487610420]

When the thought of them with someone else bothers the fuck out of you because you consider them to be more precious to you than any other contender.

I find that infatuation feels like that.

^^

 

[xisnotx]

When I'm confused by a person, but I'm ok with it...

 

[jimrckhnd]

When there are frequent moments that am utterly incapable of thinking, much less acting, logically. That and my internal emotional life feels like its trapped in a free falling elevator.

 

[A window to the soul]

xNTP's you know you're in love when you can't wait to get up in the morning.

 

[Such Irony]

When you no longer have the need to correct their flawed logical reasoning. You start thinking it's kinda funny or cute.

 

[Mad Hatter]

When you no longer have the need to correct their flawed logical reasoning. You start thinking it's kinda funny or cute.

Nah that just means you've become complacent

 

[Odyne]

The moment I actively go looking for someone because I like being with them, is the moment when I realize I am serious about them. That's when I pursue a relationship with them.

 

[storybrook]

When I abandon all instinct towards self-preservation and allow my happiness to depend on someone else.

That doesn't actually sound very healthy. Hm.

 

[redcheerio]

Infatuation/Crush: can't stop thinking about him, obsessing over everything he says and does, heart pounds when you see him

Love: want to spend more time with him than you've ever wanted to spend with anyone else, want to tell him everything, want to talk to him about everything. Feel a deep sadness, almost like homesickness, when he's away, even if only for a couple of days, and suddenly feel happy all the time when he's back. Act mushy and silly around each other, even though you're both NTs who normally aren't like that.

 

[jimrckhnd]

Nah that just means you've become complacent

I'd say that is more of a crush!

 

[bcubchgo]

when I am find myself unusually generous and responsive because I want to make someone happy.

 

[violet_crown]

Posted by someone from a different forum, but definitely sums up things well for me:

Fuck all the pop song puppy love bullshit. Your heart skipping a beat isn't love, it's cardiac arrhythmia. It's not about shortness of breath, either, or how turned on you get or whether you tell yourself you'd throw yourself in front of a bus for her or whatever. You can convince yourself of a lot about how you feel and what you would do in exchange for regular oral sex.

Love is when she drives you insane sometimes. And I don't mean merely "aggravating" or "annoying," I mean flat-out fucking in. Sane. And in a way nobody else can do it in a million years. She'll drive you to the point where you'd gouge out your own eyeball with a melon baller or smack your scrotum a half-dozen times with a ball peen hammer if it means you can be done with this conversation. She'll make you want to chew your own arm off to get out of talking about this. And I don't care how many fucking times you've had this conversation, each time, you know you'll have it again:

Her: I thought you turned the heat on.
You: I did.
Her: Well, I'm still cold. Are you sure you did it right?
You: Yes, I'm pretty sure I know how to turn on a thermostat.
Her: 'Cause you know you have to flip the switch to "heat" and....
You: Honey! I know! How to turn on! A thermostat! I went to college for it and everything.
Her: Well, I don't feel any heat blowing in here.
You: I know. I think you broke the thermostat again.
Her: I didn't break it.
You: Yes, you did, you put that halogen lamp right next to it again.
Her: That doesn't do anything.
You: Yes, it does.
Her: I thought you fixed it?
You: I did fix it, and you broke it again.
Her: Are you sure you fixed it right?
You: Yes, goddammit, I fixed it right.
Her: How do you know you fixed it?
You: 'Cause it worked when I fixed it!
Her: Well, it's not working now.
You: 'Cause you broke it again!
Her: How'd I break it?
You: You put the goddamn, fucking lamp next to it!
Her: I don't see why a lamp would break a thermostat.
You: OK. I'm going to explain this. One more time. Slowly. Thermostats have a coil inside them that expands and contracts based on the temperature. This is how they know when it is hotter than the setting of the A/C, so it can cool the room off, or colder than the setting of the heating, so it can heat the room up. Halogen lamps generate heat. Halogen lamps generate a lot of heat. That's why you burn your fingers when you touch the bulbs after they've been on for a while. So when you put a halogen lamp next to a thermostat, it causes the coil to keep expanding and expanding and expanding past the point it's intended to expand. This makes the thermostat think it's really, really hot all the time, and it makes the coil less sensitive in the future, and it'll eventually break the coil so I'll have to replace the thermostat.
Her: That doesn't sound right.
You: Trust me. It's right.
Her: How do you know?
You: BECAUSE I TOOK SIXTH GRADE FUCKING PHYSICS, OK?!
Her: Well, I don't think they should make thermostats that can be broken by something little like a lamp.
You: Fine. Don't think that. Write a letter to the manufacturers. Write a letter to universities and tell them to build a better thermostat. I don't fucking care. But that's how they make them. That's why I keep moving the lamp, that's why I keep telling you not to put it back to the right of the bookcase, that's why I've had to fix the thermostat four fucking times now. Stop! Putting! The lamp! Right! Next! To the thermostat!
Her: But on the other side of the bookcase, the front of the hallway is dark, and I can't see inside my gift closet.
You: Well, you can turn on the hall light to go through your gift closet, or you can sit here and be cold! Your choice, honey!
Her:
You:
Her:
You:
Her: I don't think you fixed the thermostat right.
You: GOD-MOTHERFUCKING-DAMMIT, I'M GOING TO FIX THAT MOTHERFUCKING THERMOSTAT TOMORROW, AND I SWEAR TO MOTHERFUCKING CHRIST IF YOU PUT THE LAMP NEAR THE THERMOSTAT AGAIN, I WILL SMASH IT TO A MILLION FUCKING PIECES AND SHOVE THEM DOWN YOUR GODDAMN THROAT!!! MOTHERFUCK ME, JESUS!!!!!!

And if the seventh time you have that conversation, knowing full well there will be an eighth time, you'd still rather have that conversation again than imagine a world she's not in, you're in love.

Especially if you do fix that thermostat... again... the next day, and not just so she'll shut up about it, but because you really don't want her to be cold anymore.

 

[jimrckhnd]

When you know somebody is so close, and so inside your defenses that you are in serious danger of being emotionally maimed - and you don't care.

 

[Green_Pine]

I let my guard down. The guard is always up wherever I go, until I am with a girl I truly love. Then I don't need it anymore.

 

[Redbone]

When they get put on your "to do" list.

 

[Kasper]

When I turn into a needy douche who wants them around all the time *shudders at the thought*

 

[So It Goes]

When I'm in love, my mind turns to mush and I move like a robot.

I look at my bride-to-be and "Bleep. Bloop." at her.

She doesn't understand my malfunction and neither do I.

I realize these raw odd feelings are infatuation, mostly, and I then gain my wits back.

 

[Valis]

I imagine myself with that person for the rest of my life and that we grow old together. I know that when they go, I will want to die.

 

[1487610420]

It starts with a knock on the head when you realize how much of your time is spent thinking about them, and while your mind can still reason, logic no longer runs it, and it feels like your guts went through a food processor and turned into mush.

 

[Winds of Thor]

I imagine myself with that person for the rest of my life and that we grow old together. I know that when they go, I will want to die.

Yes.