DISCLAIMER: The title is meant to provoke a bit. It's an attention drawer and by no means a fact, or in fact a full coverage of the thread. This thread is about a realisation I had about dealing with my feelings. If you think the title is faulty. Plenty of people helpfully pointed it out already.
I made an observation about myself yesterday which, after a bit of theorizing made me realize why I couldn't possibly be an NF.
When I have an emotion I think about why I have it. Although I came to the realisation yesterday, this morning was a good example. (Pay attention, an INTP is rare enough to tell a personal story here). This night I dreamt about my ex, whom I got dumped by just a week ago. Over the past week I was starting to feel continuously better about it, but when I woke up this morning I was missing her very badly. I basically wanted to call her, hold her etc. But then I started to think about why I suddenly had this reaction after a week of feeling better. I knew that the neurotransmitter and hormone Oxytocin is responsible for the feeling of togetherness and attachment in people. Obviously my brain had fired a high shot of that stuff on my neurons. But why? Quite possibly because of the dream I had just a couple of minutes before. And as you might now, dreams, though usually random and occurring without a pattern, can be influenced by what was on your mind before you went to bed. And sure enough, before I went to sleep I was thinking about my ex-girlfriend.
The realisation that everything I felt was merely a physical reaction with a logical cause and effect was soothing. I knew the reaction would end. And based on that I decided not to call that girl, at least not while under emotional influence, I wouldn't know what to say to her any way and would've probably made the physical reaction last longer. At the moment the oxytocin is probably being reabsorbed or broken down by my neurons, that's why I can sit here and write about my realisation in relative calmness and comfort.
Thank you for reading.