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    Cranky - your original post - this sounds very much like the one INTJ I know personally - and he would TOTALLY get your sense of humor. The one other factor is age - I don't remember if you've mentioned it anywhere on the forum. He's in his late 50s.

    My NT was an ENTJ who I got to know when he was in his 50s - if you could make a solid argument for whatever thought you were presenting, even if he didn't agree with you, would win his respect. He and the INTJ I mentioned before were good friends.

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    I don't see the rub.

    Why is it difficult for an INTJ to exhibit "kindness"? There's nothing in the handbook that dictates standoffishness or an inability to empathize. Quite the contrary.

    To effectively mediate a scenario, one must properly discern and negotiate the relevant variables. In many cases, displaying a friendly, approachable demeanor is central to success. Adhering to the ideology that, by virtue of MBTI type, one is necessarily disinclined to exhibit these tendencies is to concede inferiority of expression - not of type, but of individual personality.

    Curious. This realization is generally implicit within human exchange - something most xNTJs learn at an early age.

    Sometimes I wonder how many xSTJs believe incorrectly that they are xNTJs? Not to presume that either class suggests hierarchy, but xSTJs will often stick to fundamental principle, whereas xNTJs will concentrate on final accomplishment.

    Oh, and I get your humor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Night View Post
    I don't see the rub.

    Why is it difficult for an INTJ to exhibit "kindness"? There's nothing in the handbook that dictates standoffishness or an inability to empathize. Quite the contrary.

    To effectively mediate a scenario, one must properly discern and negotiate the relevant variables. In many cases, displaying a friendly, approachable demeanor is central to success. Adhering to the ideology that, by virtue of MBTI type, one is necessarily disinclined to exhibit these tendencies is to concede inferiority of expression - not of type, but of individual personality.

    Curious. This realization is generally implicit within human exchange - something most xNTJs learn at an early age.

    Sometimes I wonder how many xSTJs believe incorrectly that they are xNTJs? Not to presume that either class suggests hierarchy, but xSTJs will often stick to fundamental principle, whereas xNTJs will concentrate on final accomplishment.

    Oh, and I get your humor.
    And there you have it.

    Why not be kind?

    Actually all of the INTJs I know in real life are kind as well. And we seem to have a form of insight into the human psyche by nature.

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    the intjs i know in real life are all kind (generous might be a better word). i don't know any intj e5s tho. e5s can be fucking bastards, speaking from my own experience. just very cutting with their sharp edges and fickle porcupine pricklies. and miserly, viewing people as an obstacle and a drain, and pretty much ignoring any legitimacy they may have (as they, of course, are so far inferior to us! we are experts! geniuses! brilliant minds! penetrating visions!).

    they can still divorce themselves easier than i can (Te!) with the fall out. infj won't ever steamroll someone completely, it'll always feel bad and try to repair the damage before it finishes turning them into its own rolled crepe. Fe creates a far greater need to think about conduct in an emotional fall-out what-does-this-mean-for-the-self-and-the-self-of-the-other-person and do i want to endorse and represent this or do i not. Te becomes kind when it logically realizes that Te i'm-a-huge-bitch-mode makes everyone fucking hate you and your co-workers have fantasies in which you die painful gruesome gory deaths. + feeling vulnerable. which is the main thing.

    without totally SQUASHING tertiary Fi, this is not going to work to produce a happy and healthy person for any reasonable length of time. even if you only commiserate with other ntjs of your own kind.

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    Well, I'm pretty good at being nice to someone if I choose to. But I'm quite selective because it's exhausting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cranky View Post
    Guess what I've learned? People don't like it when you treat them like idiots when you deign to notice their presence, and they CERTAINLY don't like being ignored. Here's the problem: a great deal of my life is determined by people not under my immediate control. My employer, my doctor, my family, my friends, my landlord, my barista---these people control whether or not I have money, health, Christmas presents (yay!), people who love me, a place to live, and more importantly than anything else: my morning coffee.
    I think you are spot on, sadly many NT's take a very long time to learn that being intellegent doesn't make life easier... Hail the F function... NF's have a much nicer life because they have people who want to do things for and with them... NT's have a battle of intellect which is just stupid... being right and alone is not a good outcome....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chunes View Post
    I'll help you on your quest for kindness if you'll help me on my quest to become mastermind of the universe.
    There can be only ONE!
    Personally, *I* think I'm hysterically funny.

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    I got the humour. I once new an INTJ in his 30s who was nice and I complemented him on it; he stated that it was a "recent development."

    tinkerbell: About NFs having it easier... every rose has it's thorns.
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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post

    tinkerbell: About NFs having it easier... every rose has it's thorns.
    I know - getting seen as serious may be the one I spot the most. But generally people like them and warm to them.

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