ooh now the auxilary Fi *ESFP* and would it be different? I don't know, similar enough but i seem to be more retreating but also harboring that anger with her which is not good to do.
I still would react but not externally, internally first in the sense of
" do i deserve to put up with this? is it right for her to think she can boss me around?" Also i'll feel really annoyed with the person depending on the context though like my sister we don't get along too well. We can be civil though . Fi-Si is really bad loop to get into of resentment and anger. I usually avoid the person if i'm feeling that starting to bubble as it's in the best of our interests to steer clear of one another.
Simply put mother and i were having a discussion which led to my sister siding with my mother. Naturally i went inside and thought " who does she think she is to stick her nose in this? Dad's in the other room if anyone should butt in, it's him not her." So after running over it mentally i said *eek* " uumm not trying to be rude ----*her name* but this is between mother and I.
I got scolded for being disrespectful to my sister . My responce to that was just " just saying your my mother, I was talking with you not her, she has no right to butt in." It was a discussion a mother and daughter have together and no need to have any extra input exept from my father who i wouldn't of spoke to like that as i perceived him having authority over me to do so .
I feel i'm getting somewhere with all this.
This has been something i've been trying to improve on and recognize the Fi-Si loop i get myself into which is just awful and very negative. Doesn't help for self-improvement/growth which is what i'm after.
I hear alot about Ti-Si loop how's that go?
Thanks Jennifer. I'm hungry going to get some yummy lunch .