hehehe.My mother is a very stereotypical ISFJ with literally no T sense -- she's all feeling and traditional. Her thinking is so bad that the fact that she was an RN for 40 years sometimes scares me, considering she was dealing with dosages for people but had no ability to think outside her programming.
So in this case, it was frustrating because there was no good way to reach any sort of rational agreement, she just responds out of her values and it was up to me to take it or leave it OR come up with some flex on my part to make it work.
. outside her programming as in Si Fe or?
Yeah. I've learned that some things are not worth fighting about and some are -- and it's important to know the difference and then respond correctly.
right on Jennifer. That's the tricky part hehe.
That's true. I have had reactions from people that were that way. I realized that some people really suck at thinking about context; I don't know if it is N related, but N's are much better with context. In this context, her words came across as rude, but probably to her, she thought she was just giving you information... and technically she was, the context just added another layer that took her neutral answer and left it seeming sort of rude to you or like an emotional slap.
Relationships are fun, ain't they? I wish things were less complicated. Especially when two very different people start interacting, it gets sort of hairy sometimes.
That's what's nice about MBTI and this forum. It helps me to understand where the person is coming, where the communication gap is etc, i love it . I think with MBTI it's not bible but it has helped hugely in my relationship with my mother and where our communication gap is and more.
I think i've been much more productive too cause of understanding the model in accordance with my mom and i's relationship.
Especially with trying on the Fe inferior and hearing all the descriptions of how Fe inferior is experienced, especially in a grip. I noticed i related alot to how you Jennifer dealt with your Fe and your particular situation with your mother. And how you got out of it " she is my mother, always done right by me etc".
I had a similar way of reaching conclusion of rising above it like my mother's innocent in all this, she didn't ask for her husband to die, she didn't ask for her other two daughter to try to manipulate and use her at every chance, she's an innocent bystander in all this as i am. That's when i realized she actually needs me and is not out to get anything from me as my sisters are.
I guess that's why i've been so eager to figure all this out cause it will actually help me live the best life i can and i recognize the inferior as a key to the mint as Jung pretty much hints at hehe.
Heavily leaning towards Inferior Fe compared to Te now.
My Ne is lighter than air.