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    Hey Peacebaby,
    She's not my boss. In fact, I'm an employee and she is a 'temporarly' hired employee of commercial company, who came in our company with a set assignment.

    I don't mind when my boss takes 'credit' for my work: in that situation I would just be forfilling certain of his/her targets. And that's why I was hired. I feel this situation is very different.

    You are right I shoudn't jeopardise my position: as I said, the plan that she put her name under was not particularry important to me. Still I don't think I can be neutral in the future

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luet View Post
    Hey Peacebaby,
    She's not my boss. In fact, I'm an employee and she is a 'temporarly' hired employee of commercial company, who came in our company with a set assignment.

    I don't mind when my boss takes 'credit' for my work: in that situation I would just be forfilling certain of his/her targets. And that's why I was hired. I feel this situation is very different.

    You are right I shoudn't jeopardise my position: as I said, the plan that she put her name under was not particularry important to me. Still I don't think I can be neutral in the future
    She's an outside consultant? Go ahead and raise hell then. You have more cachet within the organization than she does, since she's an outsider. When it comes down to a "he said-she said" situation, if you have evidence, there's no way she'll even come close to being believed over you.

    Remember, in-group and out-group dynamics are something that can be used to your advantage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luet View Post
    Someone has stolen my work and I feel pissed off. :steam:

    I have been working with this person for a year now and up till now our working relationship has been OK. Recently I have writen a plan and she has putten her name on it like it was hers, and she gave it to our superiors (of which some actually know that I have made up and writen the plan).

    The plan itself doesnít mean so much to me, it was fine not brilliant. What got crushed is my ego. By that I mean that she dared to take professional advantage of me and obviously thinks she can. This idea of her may now be confirmed because I until now havenít spoken up (she knows that I know about this).

    Now I plan to totally screw her (havenít descided exactly how yet ). Or should I just confront her? I do not feel like that at all, but we will have to remain working together.

    What would you do? Screw her or confront her????

    Take charge and get that dishonest bitch fired. NOW.

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    Welcome to the working world. if I spent time plotting the downfall of everyone in my job who has back stabbed me, I'd have no time for work.. Sorry to say, this type of stuff happens ALL.THE. TIME. in office situations. Coworkers do it, bosses do it, birds and bees do it

    My advice would be to confront her in a non aggressive way and from now on watch your back around her.Also any time you have good ideas, make sure your manager/supervisor knows what you're working on. That way when a coworker tries to steal your idea they immediately look stupid because your boss already knows you were the originator.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onemoretime View Post
    She's an outside consultant? Go ahead and raise hell then. You have more cachet within the organization than she does, since she's an outsider. When it comes down to a "he said-she said" situation, if you have evidence, there's no way she'll even come close to being believed over you.

    Remember, in-group and out-group dynamics are something that can be used to your advantage.
    Yes, you're right about that. She is valued by some, but I'm highly valued and I am in a stable position. I have gathered I quite unique expertise in my company that can't be missed or replaced in a acceptable amount of time.
    I know I just can set off an 'eleminationproces' by bringing this incident casually up while talking to some keyfigures

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    confront her by catching her by surprise one day. the best choice is a day when she's acting particularly smug and self-satisfied, and not expecting to be deflated.
    mention it casually, but look her straight in the eye. INTJ death ray, you know.
    +points if you can work it into a dry joke or quip. smile wryly and walk away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SerengetiBetty View Post
    Welcome to the working world. if I spent time plotting the downfall of everyone in my job who has back stabbed me, I'd have no time for work.. Sorry to say, this type of stuff happens ALL.THE. TIME. in office situations. Coworkers do it, bosses do it, birds and bees do it

    My advice would be to confront her in a non aggressive way and from now on watch your back around her.Also any time you have good ideas, make sure your manager/supervisor knows what you're working on. That way when a coworker tries to steal your idea they immediately look stupid because your boss already knows you were the originator.
    I have a 'career' of 8 years and I have never experienced this before, so this is all new to me. Maybe I was lucky.
    Your advise is the minimal that I would do. I haven't decided yet, I often feel that I am the one who has to rise above things. It maybe a heroic thing to do but sometimes it just conflicts to much with my ego. I will think about this some more.

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    I guess the degree of back stabbery depends on the individual company and your coworkers. I've experienced it worse in results driven companies where people are expected to practically shoot dancing monkeys and cotton candy out of their asses on a regular basis. I tend to stay away from those companies because you're only as good as your next idea and if it's been a while you can very easily be let go.

    Quote Originally Posted by Luet View Post
    I know I just can set off an 'eleminationproces' by bringing this incident casually up while talking to some keyfigures
    tread carefully because higher ups tend to not like tattle tales. make it as casual as possible.for instance are there some elements of the original idea that she left out? if so then definitely bring those up
    For instance,

    "When I was talking to X about this topic before she submitted it to you (clear hint that the idea was originally yours) I had some other ideas that she she neglected to bring to your attention. "

    That way you bring it to their attention without it sounding like a complaint. Plus you're implanting the idea in their head that not only is this person a thief, she's also a BAD thief who left out good stuff.
    The key to bringing people down in the workplace is to make it seem like it was actually someone else's idea to bring them down..

    mouhahahahahahahaha

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