yeah, that's love alright
are you like me in the respect of not being able to do the "let's stay friends" thing when you break up with someone? wondering if this actually is connected in any way to the topic and if so how? Hmm...
whether you're religious or spritual or not, I think the way St Paul put it sums up what for me is the measure of love:
Although that last part, about enduring all things and never ending - I have difficulty with that part. I mean, does it mean you put up with everything someone does to you if you love them? Or does it mean you just keep loving them through it, though you speak your mind as to what you think of their behaviour? I guess that would be how you show your love for some people (me included) - that you don't let them become or remain as big a brat as that, and help them with some home truths even though you know you'll get no thanks for it?Love is patient,
love is kind;
love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.
What if they walk away from you and refuse to speak to you for a long period? Does it mean you're supposed to go after them and try to make peace, even when you know it'll mean you'll get abuse and bile for your efforts? or does it mean you let them go, but still love them, and be willing to forgive and "reinstate" them if they came back and asked for it? "Hoping" for that to happen?