I live with three xNFJs. My mother and brother who are ENFJs, and his girlfriend who is an INFJ. For the most part we get along well, but I recently met an ENFJ while I lived in Austria and I just do not get him.
He is a bit different from my mother and brother, maybe it is that "German" quality, but I often find him very rude; I've told him repeatedly that he comes off obnoxious and he tells me that he had no idea and doesn't mean to. Unfortunately, I do not believe him. He has a habit of saying things to me and then quickly taking it back. I feel like he's constantly pushing my buttons and I'm sure that he feels the same way. He too has complained that I am coming off "mean" to him as well. I'm beginning to think that this coldness is a result of us not understanding one another.
It's strange because no one has ever made me feel a shitload of emotions, I usually think logically when I am speaking to someone... But not him. I think the main reason is because he knows more about me than anyone else. It makes me feel uncomfortable and unsure of myself. A couple of days ago I was rude to him, commenting about him getting some type of disease since he's in China and he's been ignoring me ever since. I am completely aware that I hurt his feelings and I do not regret it either. I do not understand why all of the sudden I am acting irrationally.
Our friendship is either very good or very cruel. Something is clashing and I am not sure what it is
WTF is going on