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    Default NT's: What is your primary love language?

    I thought I saw a thread on this some time ago, but I'm having trouble locating it. That's OK, let's start a new one.

    Of the 5 primary love languages discussed in "The Five Love Languages" by Chapman, what would you say is your primary language? I don't know if this author is the first to write about this and I don't really much care - I'm more wondering which of the languages that you most identify with in relationships and if there is some sort of correlation with type.

    For those who don't know what the languages are, they are discussed briefly here: Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages: Learn the Languages

    They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

    After discussing this with a family member, it seems that maybe a lot of SJ's that I know enjoy "Acts of Service" - afterall, they are looking for "help mates" in life. I know a couple of them that when I help them do something productive (move to a new city, help them work on a Saturday, clean up the house) - they really enjoy this and appreciate it.

    I'm perplexed because as an NT - mine is Physical Touch - without a doubt. I don't know if that's rare within the NT subset, so I'm here to find out. NT's - what is your primary love language?

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    Physical touch
    Quality time
    Acts of service
    Words of affirmation
    Receiving gifts

    in that order.

    I don't think it's uncommon for NTs to use physical touch, it's very efficient!
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    I'm a touchy feely person, but I also give gifts (little things that show I've been thinking about the person) spend time, and I will sometimes do some acts of service

    I'm quite a mushy girl really - I have a fair amount of F but I'm absolutely a T type....

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    No not at all, I'ld sign Physical Touch too.

    On a scala from 1 to 5 stars, on what would motivate me to have feelings for a person, I'ld say:

    affirmation: 3 out of 5
    Quality time: 2 out of 5
    Receiving Gifts: 1 out of 5
    Acts of Service: 0 out of 5
    Physical Touch 4 out of 5
    [URL]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEBvftJUwDw&t=0s[/URL]

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    Bro, acts of service worth so little?

    Super hot chick helping you out?
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    English, and sometimes Spanish or Portuguese

    quality time
    physical touch
    acts of service
    affirmation
    gifts
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    I didnt really understand what Acts of Service meant

    Thought it meant she does things for me like cooking, washing clothes and so on
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    Scale of 1 to 5

    Physical touch: 4.5
    Quality time: 2
    Acts of service: 0
    Words of affirmation:3
    Receiving gifts: 1
    Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTPness View Post
    They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
    Well my first guesses were french, itallian, etc XD

    But this makes more sense.

    That being stated, mine go in order:


    Quality time - heavy preferance on this

    Words of affirmation - I LOVES these... if they're earned. Just going "zomg anything yeu draw will be beautiful" doesn't really work for me... seems hollow, like if I spend no effort, it'll still be appreciated, means no value when it is something I thought deserved praise. In turn, I act accordingly myself, I am sparse with my words of praise and affirmation, but they MEAN something when I say them.

    Acts of Service - shows sincerity and loyalty in a deeper way, going out of yeur way to do something that yeu don't enjoy, for someone yeu care about, in order to help them, can mean a great deal.

    Physical touch - Can be nice, but is reserved ONLY for those that I'm comfortable with; can mean alot but isn't something to be shared constantly, and can feel out of place without ideal circumstances

    Receiving Gifts - absolutely abhor recieving gifts. I prefer to earn my own way, the truest gifts are from the heart, showing compassion and understanding, and word or gesture speaks far louder than a ring ever will. If a gift MUST be given... then it must speak of understanding whot the reciever's heart yearns for, and not of trivial things like wealth.

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    Wow. Physical touch by a landslide so far.

    Physical touch: 5 stars (if I'm into you)
    Acts of service: 3
    Words of Affirmation: 3
    Gifts: 2
    Quality time: 1

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