ENTP males freak me out a little bit with the ego. I'm not very ego-friendly, I think they'd feel starved. And I might feel starved for a connection that goes really deep. There seems to be strong love-hate chemistry, but I don't know how deep it goes. Generally, I start out being a little suspicious of them. Also because one of them fucked me over when I was younger.
ENTP women seem different.
I don't know many enpt-males but I am able to make a deeper connection to them. I feel very attracted to them but their flirting has the side-effect of making me extremly shy. I can handle a teasy flirst but they are 'overdoing' it and seem to prefer an audiance to witness their succes! Those are the moments I'm loning AND hating them
I'm ENTP and the only INTJ that I know, closely, is my bf. There's a weird dynamic there between us. He's one of the few that I rarely have to bark out, "Keep UP!" as he's mentally there with me. There's quite a lot of time spent bickering, but it is just another form of our . I like how he seems just like ME but a mirror opposite in every way.
Loves routine/Hates routine
Very black&white with the world/I can challenge and find holes in any 'judgement'/theories he brings to the table...shades of gray
[we can switch kinda efforlessly]
Hella fun to tease/LOVE to tease
Finds weird quirks audaciously charming/My charm is the weird quirks in thoughts [again, vice versa here, for different things; mine in how I interact with the world, his in how he just is]
What do you get from INTJ's?
My anchor, my stability.
Which of your psychological / emotional / other needs or desires are addressed / filled by INTJ's?
Teaches me Fi, subtlety with feelings, romance, teaches me intimacy. Insights into morals. He has unwavering morals, it's quite a sight to see.
He teaches me to care less about my outside projection to the world, and to just do/be. He understands when to take me seriously, and when to laugh with me. I love getting glimpses into the weird, fascinating world that is his Ni as he loves the hair-brained ways I'd make two random things 'connect'. He actually indulges in my one-upmanship, and, knows when to back off, "No more, you're annoying me now." I like that, I like when people are direct and straight-up in what they say to me, exactly what they're feeling. Te.
Although, there are issues...but, this is a 'love' thread, so...
Romance, intimacy and Fi... taught by an INTJ? I though we sucked in this department.
Isn't that a doozy? But, yup....he's way more sentimental, interpersonally, than I am. To outsiders, I may seem the more fluffy, fuzzy, warmer, welcoming of the two. But, it's really him even though on the outside he looks aloof and cold, and not very inviting. It's weird...can't explain more clearly. I think it's the Fi/Fe divide.
I unknowingly hurt his feelings more than the other way around (and he was doing his on purpose, to prove a point, get me to *feel* what I did was wrong...yeah, over head).
He's also not a teenager, but 30, and thus, has developed his tertiary.
Like little gestures he'll do, and two days later, my mind clues in and connects, that it was a reference to X particular about me....
Edit, to add: he can't understand heads nor tails of Fe, nor its significance. Which makes it kinda moot, except for when he unknowingly gets enamoured by le charms.
Srsly, it's love/hate for me and the INTJ types. I tend to feel way more positive towards the ones who have either gotten over or never gone through their "must. prove. to. world. how. hardcore. I. am." stage.
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