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    Do you find that you just can't quite figure out the praise thing?

    Either you're not giving enough praise or your giving too much, you fail to see why curing cancer is such a big deal (all I did was follow a logical process) but wonder why people don't bow down when you declare "I have solved it, I shall call this new invention The Wheel!!".

    I mean what's the deal with praise? Did someone just make it so you just can't win?

    Isn't it time for a colourful metaphor?

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    The only time too much praise is an issue, is if it makes people beleive you are insincere, and no one wants that. Even if it makes people cringe to the souls of the feet - telling them they have done well keeps them wanting to do well.

    Why the big deal, people like to feel they are contributing and are apprecaited.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    The only time too much praise is an issue, is if it makes people beleive you are insenser, and no one wants that. Even if it makes people cringe to the souls of the feet - telling them they have done well keeps them wanting to do well.

    Why the big deal, people like to feel they are contributing and are apprecaited.
    Yeah but then you get positive feedback and negative feedback people, people who are paranoid, people who are needy and end up being enabled...

    Praise is just too hard a subject. The fulcrums keep changing!!
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    telling people they did well even if they are grumpy and morose - never hurts... I fixed da spelling.

    Don't over do it, but do it....

    It pays dividend, in my last team we bigged people up as part of the normal routeen, and everyone loved it. The team took pride in what they were doing and many commented on how possitive the praise was.

    Don't get me wrong, the team was run by two T types, they got their fair share of on the job feedback, but we also looked for praise opportunitites and shared it at the team meeting. It makes people feel good about themselvs and bond with the group

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    telling people they did well even if they are grumpy and morose - never hurts... I fixed da spelling.

    Don't over do it, but do it....

    It pays dividend, in my last team we bigged people up as part of the normal routeen, and everyone loved it. The team took pride in what they were doing and many commented on how possitive the praise was.

    Don't get me wrong, the team was run by two T types, they got their fair share of on the job feedback, but we also looked for praise opportunitites and shared it at the team meeting. It makes people feel good about themselvs and bond with the group
    Hmm... there are people though who prefer negative feedback..

    If I say to them "that's a good job, I like that" they respond something like "no it isn't, stop kissing up!!". Some days I can't win.


    Other days I don't try...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Xander View Post
    Hmm... there are people though who prefer negative feedback..

    If I say to them "that's a good job, I like that" they respond something like "no it isn't, stop kissing up!!". Some days I can't win.


    Other days I don't try...
    People need both, but they especally need possitive feedback.

    Saying good job/of saying your senior manager thought that was grear (especally important), of great to have done that, or what ever it is you are praising them for

    often provokes and uncomfortable reaction but keep saying it... even if folk flinch a bit, it's important for their self esteem and the team's moral.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    People need both, but they especally need possitive feedback.

    Saying good job/of saying your senior manager thought that was grear (especally important), of great to have done that, or what ever it is you are praising them for

    often provokes and uncomfortable reaction but keep saying it... even if folk flinch a bit, it's important for their self esteem and the team's moral.
    I think my particular problem is that I flinch...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Xander View Post
    I think my particular problem is that I flinch...
    Ok that is your learning curve, it gets better.

    Which would you rather be on the receiving end of, grumpy negative man, or you're great and doing well.....

    Bottom line is if people know you don't hold back on the good stuff, they are much more willing to work on the bad stuff and develop themselves....

    The praise ought to be done in public if possible, but not in order to make a show of people... If you can become a team of people who are open to saying what is good about each others contributions, things rocket up the performance scale... people strech further towards their goals

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinkerbell View Post
    Ok that is your learning curve, it gets better.

    Which would you rather be on the receiving end of, grumpy negative man, or you're great and doing well.....

    Bottom line is if people know you don't hold back on the good stuff, they are much more willing to work on the bad stuff and develop themselves....

    The praise ought to be done in public if possible, but not in order to make a show of people... If you can become a team of people who are open to saying what is good about each others contributions, things rocket up the performance scale... people strech further towards their goals
    Errm... honestly?

    The grumpy negative one. I'm less paranoid then.
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    Find ways to do it, even the grumpy need a little love.... Don't make it too cheesy.... Ideally make it a regular slot at your team meetings - this weeks wins... and then involve as many sucesses, bi and small... and clap

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