I respect how commanding and decisive ENTJs are. These are valuable personality traits. I have difficulty understanding why some people are so intimidated by a person with presence.
not by their presence but by the way they argue and the way they say things when they are sure of it. then ENTJs actually do sound aggressive. and ENTJs dont leave any room for stupid arguments which will actually get on their nerves (not to a point of starting a fight) but it does anyway.
but those traits will do look pretty intimidating to a person who just made a casual comment, not expecting any REACTION let alone an argument.
agressive attack as an exploration techneque doesn't suit everyones tastes.
I'm not some free food sample, i'm not obliged to suit anyones tastes.
Life is short, try to get as much done as you can.
Thinking because it's rational it's superior, it's not.....
It is. The alternative is irrational.
possitiong themselves as clever clogs - no one likes a smarty pants...
Better to be clever and disliked than being average or stupid, but loved.
Putting people down
Like hunting? I must try this.
Dissmissing people because they are not bright
Well that's a bloody good reason, isn't it? If someone's stupid... Stupid things come out of their mouths! unless they pass information on without any mental processing of their own. Repeating information isn't worth a damn anyway.
If it's not very, very special information. But that stuff doesn't just lie around waiting for stupid people to read it. So this would be highly unlikely.
Listen to stupid people 0.1% of the time. Ignoring them or even tell them to shut the fuck is way better.
Dissmising people even if they are bright, because they don't dress the way they should
This is SJ. I don't care if you're a beggar or an oil magnate.
Having a bad attitude towards people in authority
This isn't ENTJ. That is counter-productive. Burning bridges is OK if that person is not in a position to hurt you and if the person is of absolutely no use, and rude on top of that. I wonder what personal experiences you have had that makes you say such things.
Taking fun out of attacking others with less strong arguments/abilities in a dialectal fashion
Why should I let an illogical or weak argument stand? As long as it is not opposed, the person who said it is the current winner. If I can best him/her, I will.
taking the piss out of people who don't understand they are being taken the piss out off...
Are we some kind of colostomy bags for incontinent people, you say?
They can be real charmers.....
Well, thank you!
Mightier than the tread of marching armies is the power of an idea whose time has come
I always have to take a gulp before I argue with my ENTJ friends. They sure as hell don't go down easy, and they're definitely intimidating. The ones I know try and assume a position of authority in an argument instead of arguing as your equal, and the tone is often really hostile and intimidating. Another I know doesn't take an intimidating tone or raise his voice, but has an aura of "you better be right or you'll be sorry you spoke" to him.
The ENTJs I've come in contact with are good people though, and they'll always hear you out. They'll just push you to the limit to make sure you know wtf you're talking about. I don't really see anything wrong with this, like Jesus here said, there's no reason to let an illogical or weak argument stand. They get shit done and sift through the bullshit.
The probability that I was procrastinating when I was typing this post:
P(have big assignment due) = 0.6
P(posting on TypoC) = 0.2
P(having big assignment due | posting on TypoC) = 0.7
P(posting on TypoC | having big assignment due) = .......
When some of the other ENTJs at work agree with me, they'll bastardize what I've tried to phrase tactfully, effectively turning it into a direct attack on everyone who disagrees. They'll put everyone in the room on the defensive, and I end up having to intimidate them to get them to back down so that we can actually have a meaningful discussion. You don't exactly win friends or convert people to your point of view by being a dick to everyone. And the truthfulness of an idea isn't a function of how forcefully you can deliver it.
This is actually a serious question, because I dont think that I am behaving in a particularly aggressive way, often I even try to tone down the way I talk, tone down my voice and such. Yet many times people start stuttering when talking to me and I can see the fear in their eyes, though I dont know how to put them at ease in such a situation.
Some other people, like my ENTP and ISTP friends, usually find hilarious what I do (whatever that is).
Anyways, I was just wondering what it is that makes us "intimidating" and how ENTJs are perceived from the outside.
Another point is the supposedly "controlling" behaviour, I am not really sure what "controlling" behaviour even looks like, and I dont think I am controlling of social situations. Most times I will just go along with what other people want to do when socializing, and I try to make sure that everyone is ok with what is decided upon. When with friends I am usually easy going, I actually act a lot like my ESTP friend when we are out having fun, note though that work does not count as "social situation", there I am much more my ENTJ self, and experience that people are afraid of, though I am not sure why.
I will stop now before I keep on repeating myself, bring on your views and opinions pls.
What? Your type description is INTJ...So why do you think your are an ENTJ?...Okay that's one point...Next, If you are an ENTJ I would imagine others might be responding to, what I see in an entj friend, and that is an the 'can't not make decisions' approach to many things ENTJs do. So they may be like "why doesn't she just let it be"..I know..I know pygmalion in nature. Being yourself is good though..It gives others to consider different ideas and approaches..Some find this irritating..but who cares? I don't go around trying to please everyone else..That's not your job.
I suggest listening to others and acknowledging verbally to them their good ideas..that way they see that you 'see' merit in others' perspectives. Also it would help if others would stand up to challenges you may put up. I think you would add a measure of respect towards them for standing up to you. It's just that not many people have the guts. I do but it's not without some thinking and backing up my point of view with logic. So in social circles this may be a problem as they are not something often logic-based.
That's my view..Don't know if I see that correctly though. I'm not there and can't know because I wasn't there either.
I have noticed people behaving in ways which indicate they find me intimidating, but it's certainly not something I consciously set out to - come across as intimidating, that is. Even on here a few times I've had replies to some of my posts that seemed to have taken them as rude or argumentative when I meant nothing of the sort. Strange disconnect there between how I perceive myself and how others perceive me, sometimes.
"Only an irrational dumbass, would burn Jews." - Jaguar
"please give concise answers in plain English" - request from Provoker