He does do what you said, or at least he used to more before. If someone attacks me, I attack back. At least eventually. Usually I just try to comply at first until it builds up.
The only way I'd like for him to work on himself is in his approach to others including me. I don't dictate to others, that's not even the SP way.
In order for me to understand it, I'd have to be as mentally quick as him at just grabbing it all at once. I don't know how I can start doing that, it'd be a change in consciousness and probably personality type.
I guess I'll just have to start asking for examples.
He loves trolling, it's a fun pastime of his.