Sorry couldnt figure out a better name for this thread
Watching our new ENFP VP has awesome. I found someone who "thinks" they way I do. His mannerisms, facial expressions, speech patterns, are all so-normal. I totally get him. I totally get it now when you guys tell each other to "get out of my brain". He says and does exactly what I would do.
So what I have observed-he can surprise people. He goes along in NeFi mode, happy, happy, happy, then instantly starts to think-Te-a facet shift-and becomes authoritarian. This catches people offguard-the inconsistency. I do this as well. It is not a planned thing and is not typically a sign of displeasure or anger-just Te analysis. Folks, especially Fe doms and Auxs or other Fs will think I am angry, controlling, dominating or bitchy when really I am just in a direct Te analytical mode.
So my ENTPs do this some too-at least from what I observe external-cant read their minds of course, so external observations. Nice, nice,nice Fe pleasantries, then Ti abruptness-a mask shift?. Or the reverse. Typically an individual will do one or the other pattern. Here, again, no anger, just a need to "think" or be "socially pleasant" depending upon the circumstances, yet it can really surprise people and make people think they are pissed.
So Qs for ENXPs:
1 do you see these patterns in yourself?
2 do you consciously choose to modify your external behavior recognizing the potential for confusion? ie for me this means act more consistantly Te to prevent people from thinking I "got bitchy" all of the sudden.
3 Are there certain personality types who this is more of an issue with?
4 do you find you get confused by your ENXP counterparts? Ie if an entp, this behavior by and enfp confuses you...
and any other thoughts of course...