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    Quote Originally Posted by therationaledge View Post
    I once told my girlfriend that I saw getting the truth or information out of people like opening a lock

    Find the right key, and apply the right amount of pressure, and whula
    I just thought of the end of "men in tights" for some reason .
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    I don't see much wrong with saying that. When you got called to task for it you could have dressed it up a bit. "We all have our own unique combination lock..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    I don't see much wrong with saying that. When you got called to task for it you could have dressed it up a bit. "We all have our own unique combination lock..."
    Lol I dont dress up almost anyting. I think of most of it as stupid human ritual, not that I still dont do it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    You goof.
    You actually SAID this to someone out loud?
    Especially someone you were in an LTR with?

    Many people hate that.
    They feel they're reduced to objects in your view.

    I got burned badly any time I made a comment in similar style to anyone, so I quickly learned it wasn't worth it unless I knew they could handle it.
    It is definitely better to not mention these things. Besides, locks are easier to pick if you don't announce to the world that is what you are trying to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I got burned badly any time I made a comment in similar style to anyone, so I quickly learned it wasn't worth it unless I knew they could handle it.
    Quote Originally Posted by Kra View Post
    It is definitely better to not mention these things.

    It gets very tiring to pretend all the time, though. If you can't express your true thoughts to your LTR partner, then what can you express? What is the point, then? Blah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    It gets very tiring to pretend all the time, though. If you can't express your true thoughts to your LTR partner, then what can you express? What is the point, then? Blah.
    Thats why I do express them to her, it is actually one of the roughest things about the relationship...the HONESTY!
    And I dont cheat on her or anything like that either.
    I could have lied to her so many times and smoothed things very nicely, but didnt for sake of my belief in being honest with a LTR.

    Shes learning to deal with me....kinda.
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    You're asking this question in the NT forum?

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    This isn't making sense to me.

    What was the context of the conversation? This seems like a pretty straightforward metaphor, even to the point where people say "you have the KEY to my heart."

    If these are two decently reasonable people then why would they be insulted unless there's something else that went on to make them react like this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by therationaledge View Post
    I once told my girlfriend that I saw getting the truth or information out of people like opening a lock

    Kind the right key, and apply the right amount of pressure, and whula!

    She kinda got insulted, saying I shouldn't view people as locks to open.

    Is what I did actually offensive? (I have my own opnion but am interested in what you all think)
    Nah, it's just the truth. And people don't like to hear the truth, but that's cool. Better for the rest of us.
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    I think it is an interesting view point. I talk about people as puzzles, waves that consructively or destructively interfere or even use math analogies. I guess it might be considered offensive as you remove the individuality of the person when you use analogies as such and treat them as an object.

    However the beauty is that, while they may be a repeating pattern, it is all the minute details inside the pattern that give variety and spice to the mix.

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