"are the only men that have ever rejected me" and the intellegence thing all sound quite mindmate to me.
I've had an ENTP man under my skin for the last decade (although I hadn't seen him - he haunted me), until I get a feel of him lately and I'm think he was not all that.
Intellegence and not putting up with crap from you - is very attractive. No matter how assertive women are, they don't want to be with a man who is a door mat, and as an ENTP you can probably wrap most men round your finger, there is no challenge and it's dull, hence the challenge of the INTJ
I love that you get it.
The shower guy, v. strange, imaging standing watching a woman naked, showering and it takes you 2 whole dayes to fix the process, I hope you asked for your money back?
So Kra - INTJ men wont feel all imasculated if I ask them out... actually the chap who I was chatting about made a move on me, - albeit on the web....
Well... I wouldn't do it immediately after meeting them. Not because it emasculates us, but because we don't think that you've had enough time to know anything about us.
Regardless of whether we have to chase or are chased, never rush us emotionally. We don't really trust our emotions, since we know they aren't our strong point.
Originally Posted by jenocyde
Dude, tread this one lightly. Make sure that he was in fact really making a move on you and not just being as friendly and outgoing as he knew how. This was my mistake. In my experience, they do not like a direct approach. Tread lightly.
I'm starting to think I'm an unusual INTJ, like the robot that tries to be human, rather than the robot content to be a robot . My earnest efforts to be friendly label me as "the quiet type," while my efforts to get to know a woman come off as being a player (last girlfriend told me this about 4 weeks in, and it is hilarious to me how anyone could mistake me for one).
Unfortunately... I don't think I can help you here. I suck at knowing when people are interested in me if they are not blunt.
Well, it was not funny. In his rush to consider his joke, he never once considered how humiliating that was for me to stand there and be watched like that. Either way, onwards and upwards.
I agree. I often forget that, and it is horrible. Not that I watch people like that... I meant the inconsideration! I swear!
Ni > Te > Ti = Fi > Ne > Si = Fe > Se
yes, I SO don't want a push over of a bloke, it get SO tedious...
I have a gf an ENFP who bsically had a stringe of men who would go places and hold her coat while she danced and partied, and I always thought not enough resistance there. She ended up with a bloke who stood up to her and she discoverd how stuborn she really is....
I don't want to be oppressed, but I don't want to oppress either. The INTJ has a Phd and 4 languages, I suspect way brighter than I'll ever be.... shame he is not in the country