Is this possible? A guy friend of mine just admitted that he's been in love with me since...almost a decade ago. Back then, he was a player. Likely still is, but he's married now. Anyway though. So he was a player then, I was seeing someone else, so I wouldn't go near him.
We were very good friends, had constant "meeting of the mind" type interactions and all. Had great times talking religion, philosophy, science. Just whatever would come to mind, we could talk about. He did occasionally offend me, but I had a way of getting him back which he apparently found attractive. We worked together, and would compete in our positions, which was a great motivator for both of us to be the top people in our company.
He was literally banging everyone we knew, and he'd tell me all about it, in very ENTP fashion. Sometimes he'd even say things about what happened with him and the other girls in front of the other girls. Eh...At the same time though, he really seemed to take to me, and he started telling me he loved me, and calling me pet names. This went on for over a year. He'd tell me he wanted to marry me. On and on. Sometimes he'd get so gushy that it was too much for me, and I just shut him completely down, which he seemed to enjoy. I assumed he was just trying to have sex with him, and even when I believed he genuinely cared a lot about me, I played it safe to avoid getting burned. He was the ultimate lady killer.
Well so he tells me recently that he always had a special place in his heart for me. He really missed me when I went away. That he always wanted to know what happened between us, that he felt I was the perfect woman for him. That he was blindsided by how he felt for me and couldn't quite explain it in ways that made sense or whatever. I told him that him banging everyone really lowered his cred with me. Anyway, he told me he loves me still(it's been 7 years) and we haven't talked in all of that time because he thought I rejected him at one point, blew up at me, started dating another girl, and then married her. LOL!! Anyway. This seems more ENFP idealist thinking to me. Do ENTPs have the ability to fall in love and idealize a woman for so long?