In the past, I have resolved this by punching things, getting into fights, or even by punching myself in the leg, so that I could feel something. But, I think this bottling up is dangerous and can lead to a numbness that could make one suicidal. The question is not, "Will I feel pain?", but "How and in what measure will I feel pain?". We suppress the daily pains and hurts at great personal risk because it will come out. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but eventually and maybe explosively. Then the lie of emotional control will be in full view.