No .. It is more like this.
ESFJ: Remember we have to go to the fair at noon, visit my family at four, go out to dinner with my friends at seven, and then drop off the movies at the redbox and come home and clean.
INTP: Can't we just go out to dinner and forget about the rest?
ESFJ: How about i go to the fair and have fun whilst you drop off the movies .. Then we meet up for dinner, come home and if we both clean then it'll be done in half the time and i'll see the family during the week. I'll make my excuses to my friends.
INTP: When do we have sex?
ESFJ: *Ripping off clothes before the sentence is completed*
Now that wasn't so hard was it. Things do not have to be over complicated Compromise and communication is the key