i don't get it.
i'm specifically thinking of the triangular theory of love and the category of PASSION. magnetic attraction. the explosive pulling force.
for F predominants it's holism, it's self-to-self, it's connecting and communicating your self-identifications, who you are, your holistic web of values/evaluations. beliefs built on faith, on the overwhelming harmony of values, etc. it's a shot in the arm to the system, an intoxicating drug, it pervades into the whole system and just makes you resonate hard with giddiness. it makes you want to get closer, communicate everything, desire the whole of the other, you stop seeing them as individual parts and assemblages of pieced togetherness and their whole system becomes part of your own, a new need.
for T predominants i can't tell what it is. i think it's partly a competitiveness. a challenge. a desire to play a game, an insatiable appetite. it seems like the best game you've ever played, the greatest performance, the sense of accomplishment together, etc.
F and T types sometimes find great balance in relationships by providing extra fortification for each other's weaknesses. but i want to know what activates their desire. how they want, how they perceive wanting, why they go crazy over another.
i'm just tossing out ideas. show me more.