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    Default NTs: How would you describe your ideal SO?

    No points for originality, but the ENTP thread was interesting and I wanted to see how other NTs responded. So what qualities would your ideal mate have? Feel free to add what your ideal mate would NOT be like as well.

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    I'll play! (and I'll assume this is NOT about physical characteristics)

    positives:

    - not a fucking baby
    - dry and extremely well developed sense of humour, about self and others
    - must love dogs (not loving dogs is a dealbreaker)
    - has 'rockness' - the ability to be a rock, even as those around him (possibly including me) fall to pieces
    - emotional intelligence
    - strength of character
    - masculine in the good, real way, not the bullshit rooster way

    negatives:

    - 70's style feminism (i.e. wants me to go out and earn an equal wage and, if we have children, continue to work outside the home)
    - no ability to laugh at himself
    - wants me to be his mommy. I can do this SOME of the time, but this cannot be the overwhelming vibe of the relationship (and I'm not of the belief that many of the men who want 'mommies' are aware of it)
    - emotionally weak and/or manipulative
    - immaturity, on any level
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    I like people who keep trying.

    Of course, good humor and sharp wit are always factored in, as well.

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    Ah, Jenocyde, always making me look bad. See, what you posted is 100% true. 1000% true. He's *got* to be able to DEAL WITH STUFF and not run away/hide. A man without the ability to face up to shit and deal with it loses my respect faster than...well...really fast!

    (If that's what you meant, Jeno. )
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kangirl View Post
    Ah, Jenocyde, always making me look bad. See, what you posted is 100% true. 1000% true. He's *got* to be able to DEAL WITH STUFF and not run away/hide. A man without the ability to face up to shit and deal with it loses my respect faster than...well...really fast!

    (If that's what you meant, Jeno. )
    Yes, that's what I meant!!!

    But darling, you could never look bad...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kangirl View Post
    I'll play! (and I'll assume this is NOT about physical characteristics)
    Yay! And I'd prefer if it were a little deeper than "I like boobies, huge ones.", but if thats how the person feels than whatev.


    negatives:

    - 70's style feminism (i.e. wants me to go out and earn an equal wage and, if we have children, continue to work outside the home)
    - no ability to laugh at himself
    - wants me to be his mommy. I can do this SOME of the time, but this cannot be the overwhelming vibe of the relationship (and I'm not of the belief that many of the men who want 'mommies' are aware of it)
    - emotionally weak and/or manipulative

    - immaturity, on any level
    A guy that has his own separate thing is critical. Excessive "we-ness" would result in the death of the other party. Control freaks are also out. As are people who are a little too fixated on rules. The positives you list describe the guy that I should find attractive, but lack the good sense to.

    I think more than anything I want someone I can hang out with. Just as content chillin on the couch as going out. Hes gotta be at least as smart as I am, but preferably knowledgeable in things I know nothing about--I dig someone I can learn from. Id love someone I could have random (possibly life-threatening) adventures with, so fearless and imaginative as well. Most importantly though, the guy has to be passionate about something. I dont care if its his coin collection, there should be some subject or idea that makes his heart beat. Physical is kinda whatever, but I prefer much taller guys and at 5'2 thats not much of a hurdle hehe.

    Oh! He should be at least as weird as I am or hes not going to make it.

    Disco dancin' Shiva edit: What are yalls thoughts on the whole mind mate thing?

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    Yes, agreed with 'passionate about something' - that is so, so true. A man who has a passion is very attractive to me.

    Also agreed on intelligence. Ideally anyone I am with is as smart or smarter than me.

    EDIT: Mind mate? Explain pls...?
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    Indulgent. At this point in my life all I can say is that I'd like someone who lets me know when I'm being a real idiot, without controlling me.

    Intelligence is not as important as insightfulness-- though the two are incredibly high up on the list.

    Oh, and incredibly important: DID NOT go to an all-boys school, either as a child or in college. I have my reasons.

    And able to appreciate my occasional manipulative tendencies as well-executed. Or give me pointers for next time.

    ...I'll probably think of more later. So much for one quality.

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    Wow, looks like a few of the ENT girls were really looking for a reason to talk about this.
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    - Smart (but doesn't have to be a genius.)
    - Has a sense of humor and can be silly (but doesn't have to be a comedian.)
    - Isn't overly girly (i.e., can get dirty, doesn't worry about chipping nails or mussing hair.)
    - Doesn't have to look like a fashion plate to leave the house for a quart of milk.
    - Can enjoy time spent time together while each doing our own thing.
    - Isn't jaded.
    - Doesn't have a lot of enemies or people she doesn't get along with.
    - Gives me space for my own things she may not share my enthusiasm for.
    - Enjoys and has a healthy attitude about sex.
    - Is kind to others even when she doesn't have to be.
    - Shares my basic values
    - Doesn't want kids
    - Thinks I'm fantastic
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