I don't really equate physical violence to a loss of control, unless it occurs when you're in a rage.
Violence has several uses, from the immediately useful and practical [protecting yourself and others in an altercation] and various psychological effects for the victims, bystanders, etc that can be beneficial or harmful.
It's a tool that I have used in the past to superb effect. The fact of the matter is, however "inelegant" or "brutish" violence is, what it offers you in terms of effect is something that's real and should be taken into account.
Although I'm a semi-pro fighter (thaiboxing) and trying to enter MMA this year.
I regard controlled fighting as a real hard NT activity.
As an ENTP i think that its basiclly the ability to remain calm during fire so that i can analyze the situation with a clear head and make good deciscions that makes me a succesful fighter.
However my work ethic can be questioned, I have extremely good technique timing and strategys on how to defeat my opponents.
I always make up new strategys, training methods and invent techniques as I go, people would describe me as extremley violent and say that i do actually physically hurt people during practice and i probably do.
However at oter times I'm never violent, there have been times where it was close and I have gotten into fights but the sheer knowledge that I can turn the other guys face into shit in a matter of seconds makes me walk away laughing
Never been in a fight. A girl in high school wanted to fight me because she thought I was talking shit. I just explained that it was her friend who was talking shit. I told her that I didn't mind fighting but let's get the facts straight first!
We didn't fight and became decent friends that year.
Controlled violence has tons of advantages. I'm more game for that rather than losing my temper and sense of control. Luckily, I've never lost my temper enough to lash out physically with anyone. I can't imagine what that would take!
Putting the imagination aside, I don't consider myself a violent person, seeing as how I've never been in a physical fight. Not unless you count getting into some with my brother during those elementary school years. Anywho, I don't get angry too terribly easily, so someone would have to try pretty hard to get me boiled enough to lash out at them.
I've definitely been in my share of physical fights. Just growing up in NYC in the 80s, it was par for the course. You can't talk your way out of something with logic with people who carry razor blades under their tongues. But now, no. I don't raise my hand to people. However, I am not above throwing down if you physically harm someone I love.