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    Quote Originally Posted by sharonrenee80 View Post
    Imagine this hypothetical: Let's say I have a crush on an INTJ and I'm pretty sure he's interested too. I'm worried that he's going to talk/think himself out of doing anything about it. I'm smart and articulate, so I have my own arguments, reasons, and fears for why the relationship should or should not be attempted.

    Are my arguments, reasons, and fears something to share w/ the INTJ or something to keep to myself until later? I worried: (1) that he'll be scared because - yes - I've though about us having a relationship; and (2) that he'll adopt my worries and concerns and add them to his own. Is this something the INTJ might do?
    I think you should probably keep them to yourself, truthfully. He's got enough to worry about with the 8 million simulations he's running in his head, all of which he's taking the most pessimistic view of. If you like him, what he needs from you is clear and confident affection. You don't have to actually make the first move (although that would help), but you have to make sure he knows that his move would be received warmly. And don't rely on subtle cues, because he won't pick up on them. You'll probably have to be the vulnerable one first if you want him.
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    Agreed
    Embrace the possibilities.

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    Thanks!!!

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    How about if there is off and on communication, but the pursuer is not sure of the INTJs interest...
    Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    Ok, balls to the wall, I'm asking honestly. Assuming the near improbable happens and an appropriately attractive INTJ shows up on screen. What's next?
    Be available, be friendly, be honest, and don't be afraid to be persistent. Once you've reeled in their attention find out what they're good at. And whatever that is --be sure you need help with that!

    Ex: Oh, you're a desktop analyst? I'm not so great with that sort of thing and coincidentally, my computer's been giving me a lot of trouble. I doubt it can be fixed. <meaningful pause> I'll probably just buy another one from the local <mega chain>.

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    There are few areas I need help in though, and this is one of them...
    Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.

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    Jump on them, and whisper seductively in their ear about topics they love.
    Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

    Always reserve the right to become smarter at a future point in time, for only a fool limits themselves to all they knew in the past. -Alex

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    Wasn't there a thread about this a while ago and one of the conclusions was " You don't choose an INTJ, they choose you" ?

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    I got an INTJ.

    You can't force someone with you, no matter who you are.
    Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antimony View Post
    I got an INTJ.

    You can't force someone with you, no matter who you are.
    Who said anything about forcing ?

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