Imagine this hypothetical: Let's say I have a crush on an INTJ and I'm pretty sure he's interested too. I'm worried that he's going to talk/think himself out of doing anything about it. I'm smart and articulate, so I have my own arguments, reasons, and fears for why the relationship should or should not be attempted.
Are my arguments, reasons, and fears something to share w/ the INTJ or something to keep to myself until later? I worried: (1) that he'll be scared because - yes - I've though about us having a relationship; and (2) that he'll adopt my worries and concerns and add them to his own. Is this something the INTJ might do?
I think you should probably keep them to yourself, truthfully. He's got enough to worry about with the 8 million simulations he's running in his head, all of which he's taking the most pessimistic view of. If you like him, what he needs from you is clear and confident affection. You don't have to actually make the first move (although that would help), but you have to make sure he knows that his move would be received warmly. And don't rely on subtle cues, because he won't pick up on them. You'll probably have to be the vulnerable one first if you want him.
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Ok, balls to the wall, I'm asking honestly. Assuming the near improbable happens and an appropriately attractive INTJ shows up on screen. What's next?
Be available, be friendly, be honest, and don't be afraid to be persistent. Once you've reeled in their attention find out what they're good at. And whatever that is --be sure you need help with that!
Ex: Oh, you're a desktop analyst? I'm not so great with that sort of thing and coincidentally, my computer's been giving me a lot of trouble. I doubt it can be fixed. <meaningful pause> I'll probably just buy another one from the local <mega chain>.
Prepare to be assisted, as well as educated on all points.
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