I do not seem to relate to most of the requirements you've posted before. Nowadays, I feel attracted to girls who are at first glance my total opposites: loud, carefree, outgoing, cheerful, temperamental etc.
Now if I find someone interesting enough, I'll observe her and collect some data (no stalking). It's either that a) she proves to be shallow and stupid, in which case I'll quickly forget her, or b) I notice a twinkle of her "core", something deep and meeningful, something they try to hide, perhaps an unseen similarity of some sorts. In the latter case I take charge, and her only "obligation" is to go with the flow.
I can't think of a way to "seduce" us. You may try and stroke our ego however...
ETA: Ugh, please congratulate me on my first nauseating comment. Yay.