How do you guys get over being lonely while single?
I'm not lonely. It took a couple of months (after having been with him for nearly 18 years) before the occasional loneliness pangs faded completely, but now, I enjoy being single and living alone. I get my socialising needs met from my friends (online and IRL) as well as working in a fairly chatty team.
I can see why introverts might get this, on the one hand, because if they don't actually live with another person, their human contact might be very low indeed - yes, fair enough, part of that's healthy introversion and "me time", but I know with most introverts I've known, quite a chunk of it's less healthy, fear-driven, "don't know how to socialize/nobody likes me/what if I go out and have a good time, and then people expect me to go out AGAIN another time, when I don't feel like it?/easier to stay in" stuff... all people need some human contact, however introverted, IMO.
Extraverts like me, who have been single long-term, I might reason, would be at less risk of loneliness since I spend so much of my time around people, both in and out of the home.
BUT, on the other hand, you could say the reverse. The introvert that does go out and about, would probably be GLAD to have the house to himself, the socializing he does at work or school being more than enough for him, so he wouldn't get lonely when alone at home (Scenario 3). Meanwhile, the Extravert, whether they go out a lot or not, still might need more company and feel the absence of it at home more keenly.
Then you have the weird ENTx's, who can be quite happy with their own company, whose extraversion is more about an orientation to the external than "needing people" per se. Maybe with us, we'd be more like the healthy introvert in the handily, retroactively (as I type) named Scenario 3.
Some people though, regardless of what other socializing they do or don't do, seem to need a romantic relationship, and feel incomplete without one. I think this is often painted as a "most people" thing, when in fact, more people would be happy single than we think, and a lot of people who think they can't be, actually could - the unhappiness isn't coming from singleness itself, but the societal pressure it puts on them, the feelings of failure and patheticness that affect their self confidence when others judge them for being single.
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BUT, on the other hand, you could say the reverse. The introvert that does go out and about, would probably be GLAD to have the house to himself, the socializing he does at work or school being more than enough for him, so he wouldn't get lonely when alone at home (Scenario 3).
(my god I hate that smilie. Shoot me now. Anyway.) That is, if you add online socialising to the mix.