1. She grew up in a horrible family situation and is full of seething anger.
2. She wants a career but also had two kids and children disrupt the order of life / make her feel out of control of her life.
3. Her interpersonal skills are terrible.
Her INTP husband looks like an ENFP compared to her. I think the big thing is the anger issues that never got resolved; she is like a barrel of rocket fuel around an open flame, going from unlit to explosion in the space of a second.