Limiting belief, to believe that you are being demonized for being unable to attach, the language use of attach as a response to the way interpretation is a core belief. The core belief of trust and respect of reciprocity to feel comfortable in the presence of thoughts and emotions.
I feel demonized by my INTJ family, spending time with them undermines my very essence. I've seen a Dr Phil show and the curious point, NF's may lie when critiqued to please the NT while NT's may critique when frustrated by the NF. The point here is trust as a core belief happens out of respect from being non judgmental from the value placements or lack of value placements in association to personal space. When that is violated the core belief stacks up against reference to the treatment by others and the tendency to express surface reflection alone is what happens out of being hurt for the trust and respect left a long time ago. It is the communication, there are key words that continue to be used, it is then perception to pick up the words that are repetitive to determine the reason behind their use.
Projection is such that often times experience tends to be assumptive and judgmental as a defensive gesture to avoid hurt. The essence of family is to encourage and support, often times the opposite polarity of this happens, which is based on deep psychological migration from childhood experiences that get transferred to the present tense. For each persons reaction, is active or reactive to that which the subconscious learnt as a child. The development, the values, the core beliefs that are then transferred based on the experiences and the interpretation of the present.
Yes indeed you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink I think it's a wrong proverb to use. To me it implies the horse won't drink from the water because it believes its poison, awareness. On the other hand get a sheep to drink and it will, if it dies you don't drink. It is communication, genuine communication based on respect and trust is dismissed with the people known closest, its in one ear and out the other faster than a tank, the walls and guards in place for self preservation.