User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 31

Thread: Ask An ENTJ

  1. #1
    Iron Maiden fidelia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2 so/sx
    Posts
    11,106

    Default Ask An ENTJ

    EJCC was kind enough to offer to answer some questions that other types had about ESTJs and also invited others of her type to join. It was quite helpful, and I think also brought up some interesting considerations in common areas of miscommunication and how to deal with them.

    I have asked DiscoBiscuit to do the same for people wondering about ENTJs because the Iceman and the Child thread he started brought up some interesting similarities and differences. If any other ENTJs want to join in answering, they are most welcome. If you people think that there are enough similarities, let's expand it to all NTJs.

    I'll start it off with some questions and people may add or expound (and expand) as they like.

    1) Both ENTJs and ESTJs tend to like being in charge and people sometimes mistake them. What are the main things that distinguish the two types from each other?

    2) What earns your respect the most?

    3) How do you feel/what do you do when people are emotional around you?

    4) Would you say you are confident through and through or is it more just the impression that the people around you have? Do you have much inner self-doubt or insecurity?

    5) If someone was going to give you a compliment or someone was going to recognize you for something, what would you feel greatest about being complimented on and what form would that recognition take?

    6) What would you most want people to know about who you are or what is important to you?

  2. #2
    I'm a star. Kangirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Posts
    1,470

    Default

    1) Both ENTJs and ESTJs tend to like being in charge and people sometimes mistake them. What are the main things that distinguish the two types from each other?

    ENTJs are awesomer. It's obvious.

    2) What earns your respect the most?

    A person who can admit being wrong and/or admit vulnerability.

    3) How do you feel/what do you do when people are emotional around you?

    Depends. If I feel it's something WORTH getting emotional over, I feel bad for them and will try to help. If I think someone's throwing a fit or behaving inappropriately (i.e. getting all emotional around a group of strangers) it just makes me think they're an emotionally incontinent type and I feel vaguely embarrassed - for them and for me, having to witness it.

    4) Would you say you are confident through and through or is it more just the impression that the people around you have? Do you have much inner self-doubt or insecurity?

    I'd say it's more the impression - of me, anyway. I'd say my insecurity levels are about normal (i.e. I definitely HAVE insecurities, but I don't think I'm ruled by them all the time). Sometimes I think that what people might be reading as ENTJ confidence is actually ENTJ confidence AFTER a decision has been taken or a choice been made. Once I've decided to go for something, that's when I can bulldoze and believe in the project/myself 110%, but that's only a specific situation. Maybe it's just more visible somehow? Dunno.

    5) If someone was going to give you a compliment or someone was going to recognize you for something, what would you feel greatest about being complimented on and what form would that recognition take?

    Hmmmmm. I think my answer to this is that it depends on who it's coming from. Some of the best and most happy-inducing compliments I've gotten in my life have been minor, in terms of the words used, but meant a ton to me because of who they came from - people I loved and/or respected very much. And I'm not sure the most effusive praise would mean much if it was coming from a jackass.

    6) What would you most want people to know about who you are or what is important to you?

    I'm not sure I'm bothered with what 'people' know about who I am. People I know, my friends, family etc., *of course* I would prefer them to have a good opinion of me, but it doesn't bug me TOO much if a stranger or acquaintance gets me wrong, beyond the simple annoyance I feel at wrongness. Also re: what's important to me - again, this is personal. People who are close to me will know, and people who aren't close to me, I probably won't reveal that info without a reason. I'm kind of guarded actually, in a way that isn't always obvious because I'm a big fat extrovert and will talk about sex at the drop of a hat.
    "Only an irrational dumbass, would burn Jews." - Jaguar

    "please give concise answers in plain English" - request from Provoker

  3. #3
    Banned
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    MBTI
    type
    Enneagram
    5
    Socionics
    INFP
    Posts
    963

    Default

    ENTJ: what do you think of INTP's?

  4. #4
    Iron Maiden fidelia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2 so/sx
    Posts
    11,106

    Default

    Thank you!

    For number 2, do you do that easily yourself when the situation warrants it, or would it be something you find difficult to do and therefore respect those who can?

    In answer to number 3, all the STJ people mentioned that they would have to determine if the person was just a complainer crying for attention. They all seemed very worried about people doing this. For you it sounds more like wanting people to control their emotions enough to express them in an appropriate venue.

    For number 4, do you talk about things before the decision has been made, while you are in process, or is it a done deal before you would start discussing it with anyone?

    Number 5 seemed to be more about the content of the compliment for STJs and doing it casually in a non-emotional way. For you, it is more who it comes from and whether they are qualified to comment.

    Number 6 - Do people think that they know all about you because you come off as extroverted, or are they aware that you are only being your social self and there's more stuff they aren't likely to see?

  5. #5
    Nips away your dignity Fluffywolf's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    9 sp/sx
    Posts
    9,422

    Default

    ENTJ, could you please find appreciation in the skills and usefulness of introverts?

    (Was directed at the ENTJ's I know irl. Seems they have a lot of trouble understanding introverted people.)

    ~Self-depricating Megalomaniacal Superwolf

  6. #6
    Iron Maiden fidelia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2 so/sx
    Posts
    11,106

    Default

    I tried to change the title to include all NTJs after the fact, but I couldn't...

  7. #7
    pathwise dependent FDG's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Enneagram
    7w8
    Socionics
    ENTj
    Posts
    5,908

    Default

    1) Both ENTJs and ESTJs tend to like being in charge and people sometimes mistake them. What are the main things that distinguish the two types from each other?

    ESTJs want to be in charge a lot more than ENTJ - intruding upon your work and the like. ENTJs are sometimes unaware of how the something is pratically realized, so they might tell you to do something and not care about how you're doing it. Both approaches have drawbacks, of course.


    2) What earns your respect the most?

    Oh, everybody has my respect until they do something really wrong/stupid. But as far as something in particular goes, if you're kind, funny, and smart, then you will have more respect from me.


    3) How do you feel/what do you do when people are emotional around you?

    Depends on the level. If they're sad, or upset about some particular event, I will try to do something to relieve it. If they're being batshit crazy I want to get the hell away from it.


    4) Would you say you are confident through and through or is it more just the impression that the people around you have? Do you have much inner self-doubt or insecurity?

    I'm pretty confident. I'd say much more than average. Doesn't mean I'm an asshole, just that I think stuff through, have good sources, so...why should I not be confident? Sure, I have some blind spots though - sometimes I am unconfident in interacting with people on bureucratic stuff.


    5) If someone was going to give you a compliment or someone was going to recognize you for something, what would you feel greatest about being complimented on and what form would that recognition take?


    Hell, everything is good as a compliment! Seriously, can't choose. If they pay me, that's the best recognition ahah
    Anyway, if the compliment is from somebody I like and respect, then it has more value.


    6) What would you most want people to know about who you are or what is important to you?

    I'm a pretty straightforward, WYSIWYG kind of guy, so it's very easy to get to know me.
    ENTj 7-3-8 sx/sp

  8. #8
    Iron Maiden fidelia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2 so/sx
    Posts
    11,106

    Default

    Thank you! Anyone else?

  9. #9
    Branded with Satan murkrow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Posts
    1,635

    Default

    1) Both ENTJs and ESTJs tend to like being in charge and people sometimes mistake them. What are the main things that distinguish the two types from each other?

    ENTJs have a vision and they're working towards it at all times, they have little respect for the moment.
    ESTJs are exceptionally good at operations, they know the protocol and they apply it very well.
    If an ESTJ is being insubordinate the chance of them actually knowing the better course is much higher than that of an ENTJ knowing the better course when being insubordinate. This is because ENTJs are 1. less respectful of authority and 2. less in the moment.

    ENTJs are good at criticizing, streamlining and conceptualizing. ESTJs are good at doing, doing and doing.

    3) How do you feel/what do you do when people are emotional around you?
    My own emotions range from reverent to annoyed in the presence of emotional outburts.
    I generally try to present a clear definition of the problem and show the pointlessness of a negative emotional response.

    4) Would you say you are confident through and through or is it more just the impression that the people around you have? Do you have much inner self-doubt or insecurity?


    I've got self-doubt and insecurity coming out my ears.

    5) If someone was going to give you a compliment or someone was going to recognize you for something, what would you feel greatest about being complimented on and what form would that recognition take?

    "I couldn't have done it without you."
    wails from the crypt.

  10. #10
    Branded with Satan murkrow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Posts
    1,635

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by mortabunt View Post
    ENTJ: what do you think of INTP's?
    Unfortunately their lack of predictability and dedication makes them hard to depend on.
    They are good to have around, the best critics for an ENTJ.
    wails from the crypt.

Similar Threads

  1. [ENTJ] Ask an ENTJ!
    By Tamske in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 217
    Last Post: 12-07-2012, 10:09 PM
  2. Ask an ENTJ, get a command.
    By Asterion in forum The Fluff Zone
    Replies: 65
    Last Post: 06-11-2009, 09:18 AM
  3. [ENTJ] I have an ENTJ friend who compliments me all the time...
    By ReadingRainbows in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 69
    Last Post: 02-21-2009, 03:27 AM
  4. [ENTJ] Breaking Ties with an ENTJ
    By norepinephrine in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 06-17-2008, 02:08 PM
  5. [ENTJ] how do you argue with an ENTJ?
    By miss fortune in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 136
    Last Post: 03-08-2008, 02:57 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO