I don't like things hanging over my head, so I try my best to resolve it on my end. It bothers me...I obsess about it and dwell. Most of the time, therefore, I take action to resolve things. As long as I've done something about it - even if the other party doesn't cooperate - I feel better.
It also depends on the severity of the conflict, and whether I consider myself obligated to resolve things. If I am having a conflict that is trivial, or that is completely the other person's doing, then I won't budge. It doesn't bother me as much, and I usually forget about it ('til the next time I see that person, of course). Sometimes I forget altogether, if the conflict is small enough.
With conflicts initiated by other people, I prefer to let them go unresolved instead of engaging in drama I don't care about. I figure it's part of a bigger personal problem for them and I might as well not feed it.
"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
I recently got to the bottom of some unresolved conflict between me and a couple of people and it didn't feel good because it turned out that no one that got dragged into it was really the fault of any of it...god I would love to tell the starter that I smell a rat. But on the other hand the more I avoid this person and try to stay out of their way the stupider this person has to make themselves look to get their side of the story believed...sometimes you can get revenge and not have to get your own hands dirty. Sometimes its all you can do
in those situations where you know you can't go to people because t-
hey are already siding with that person
Like when you have an argument with a friend that ended badly, but you didn't make up yet. Or he won't listen to your side of the story.
I hate unresolved conflicts. I don't care what the resolution is: breaking up, breaking away, trying harder, whatever - I just want to fix it and be done. The goal is always understanding. It's very difficult to go on with my day if I simply don't understand what went wrong, or someone's point of view.
But if someone is stubborn, or if I am too bothered by the turn of events, it's quite easy to resolve it by forming my own unsubstantiated conclusion. I just accept it as fact, then push it out of my mind and never think of it again. It will literally be forgotten, along with the person, in a matter of minutes.