Hah! The boy and I both love to play the devil's advocate. He's an INxJ, most likely an INFJ with high T functioning. Initially, when learning MBTI, I considered him INTJ.
I'm actually pretty attracted to INTJ; out of all types, esp. NTs, they're the most likely to engage in debate (aside from ENTPs), for the hell of it. Just cuz. To know. To learn. Out of curiosity. Cuz they got a question, esp. if they are secure enough with you.
The boy and I initially started off as friends, and, one day he told me, "You know, I was literally sitting on my couch for a couple of hours, racking my brain trying to figure out, at least ONE reason why I am still friends with you...and, I couldn't find any other reason, just one, you have a damn intriguing mind."
I was actually quite offended, once you peel away the layers of that 'compliment', i.e., there was NO redeeming quality about me aside from my mind and its daily dose of weirdness/fascination for him.
And, the other thing that he admires about me, "You got balls."
Combining them together means that we bond over debating.
So, yup, we engage in debate with each other quite often. It's our subtle way of showing affection. Outsiders think we're 'unhealthy' because we're always bickering, but, we love it. It works for *us*...and makes those moments when we are emotionally intimate that much more special. More intimate, treasured.
Our fav. past-time, like this last weekend, bust out the lawnchairs, with the beerholders, a shared blanket, on his deck, moon and stars up above, a couple of candles casting shadowy glow, we debate. Balls out. Spitfire round. Debate. Makes what I try to engage in these forums look like child's play.
Then, calm discussions. Talking of hopes, dreams, what ifs, weird scenarios, what would you do.
Sometimes, there's from his end, "let's just agree to disagree"
and...from me, "Whatever, Mr. Devil's Advocate"
Me making shadow puppets.
And, we debate. Sometimes, until the sun rises again the next day. It's mental exhaustion of the most formidable kind. Indescribable in words.
Makes falling asleep holding tight to him, that much more special, cuz, this was the same person who smilingly took my mental hits, and I his, and recognized ideas for ideas, versus, me for me, and are now holding me, not my ideas, oh so tight.
everyone uses every function about evenly. take NE for example. if there are those who don't use it much, then why are there such massive amounts of people constantly flowing through Wallmart with 20 items or less?