Well, dont overlook the fact that "too cold" is something very relative.
But I am am aware that this could a problem if you have a two NTs.
So ENTP that is showing some ENFP traits is on what I was aiming on in my claim. Since it would be desirable that someone in that relationship actually feels something.
But you will still have E/I P/J difference to make things more interesting.
I think J's worry me almost as much as F's....SFJ's though...**shudders**
I try not to have those types of discussions with my SO. Or at least I wouldn't "bring it" the way I do with my friends. I don't want any potential bad energy to cross over into the home life. I really tone it down. Plus if he's made it far enough to be my SO, we wouldn't have that much time for talking anyway... just sayin'.
You guys are so rigid sometimes! I think the core of the issue may be EJ's because they're constantly trying to get me to do things on their schedule, keep things "tidy" and "organized". I understand the value of a visible organization structure sometimes but for my own life I'd prefer to stick to the apparent chaos only I can understand.
IJ's seem more tolerant of how individual's function so long as they get results but it can come across as appeasing. There are IJ's I've worked with who outwardly seem to tolerate me but I'll get the feeling that they think I'm an oddity or not grounded enough in reality, and don't really value my insight as much because of that.
Do you guys think it's healthy to seek out a SO with whom one constantly debates? Or is argumentation and one-upmanship better left for friends, with relationships being -fests?
I obviously want someone who loves my mind like I do, but it seems odd that someone could respect me intellectually and not want to debate. Like, "Awesome sword, but no, I don't want to fence." But then the types that ENTPs work best with tend to be very anti-conflict. So it's a bit of a catch-22.
What thinks you?
I don't like arguing with SOs!
If it's once-in-a-while, and it's not personal, it's fun. I want the option to debate, but I don't want it as a theme of the relationship.
I could see that. If I had to work with the INTJs I know, they'd always be mad at me :steam: for taking too long to do some stuff and jumping the gun with other stuff.
Originally Posted by BlahBlahNounBlah
Best to keep INTJ+ENTP casual.
Not so sure about that... I recently figured out the type of an ex bf and he's INTJ and we got along fabulously. But he was very very peculiar and particular, like most INTJs are...
the stories I could tell!